Heyyy!
Does anybody know how I can access the new forum? I was a PJ member for over 15 years, submitted the request to be able to join the new forum, but so far haven't heard back. Is there any way to contact a moderator or someone who could help?
thank you!
So yeah, I'm a 39 year old guy from Poland who's lost a little over 130lbs in the last two years. Never felt better in my life, but only physically. Mentally, I'm struggling. I'm left with loose skin on my stomach and my inner thighs and it's so discouraging and depressing. I have my tummy tuck scheduled for October, but I'm already freaking out about recovery, possible weight gain etc.
I'm also tired of meeting guys, things going well and then there's the big reveal: I only look somewhat good with my clothes on. I live in Spain and physical appearance matters A LOT here. Way more than anywhere else I've been. I do realize it's a personal preference and I certainly don't want to sound pitiful, but it's depressing as hell. Obviously, rejection hurts, but I never thought it would be this bad.
It sucks.
And then there's my age. I don't look, nor do I feel ancient, but I feel like I've wasted the best years of my life on being obese. It seems like I'm on a slippery slope towards my grave at this point with little to experience in life.
Just venting/ranting, but I needed to let it out.
39M.
SW: 135KG (297lbs)
CW: 75KG (165lbs)
I think I need some words of encouragement... I have my surgery scheduled for October, but I'm scared shitless. Not of the surgery itself (they can put me under anytime), but the recovery seems like a nightmare. I'm a very active person. I work out 6 days a week and reading some of your posts makes me wonder if I'm strong enough to stay at home for at least 6 weeks and do nothing. I'm terrified I'll compensate with eating too much and then I'll gain weight again. And then there are my thighs which is another mess that needs to be fixed next year 😞 It's all so mentally draining. I've lost all that weight and I'm left with a body of an 80 year old. I knew it would be bad, but I never thought it would make me feel so horrible. Being gay also doesn't help. I'm tired of telling guys I only look somewhat good with my clothes on. Seeing their confusion and disappointment (sometimes) is so depressing.
Anyway, how did you manage? Was it really that bad? Did you gain any weight during recovery? Did you lose it afterwards?