u/Phoenixswish

My (35f) college bff (36f) is getting married in a year from July. We have been besties since college but only get to see each other once a year. I work remotely for an industry that doesn’t care what my hair looks like. As such I finally embraced myself and now the under side of my hair and a money piece is currently orange but it changes frequently (it’s been purple, pink, and blue so far this year (start of 2026)). The orange is actually staying for longer than the rest as a lot of people I know really like it. When my friend first got engaged she asked me to be a bridesmaid (my hair was teal) and said the dresses would be teal. I asked if she was ok with me color matching my hair to the dress like I did for my cousin’s wedding. She said yes. Fast forward to her visiting me with her fiancé and it turns out they took bets on the color of my hair. I found this funny as he won $5 for it being purple. She then mentioned how she wants the MOH and bridesmaids hair to be brown, blonde, brown and that she’d like my hair a ‘normal’ color. She specifically mentioned wanting it brown. I dye my hair based on how I am feeling and I don’t know how I’ll feel in a year. I said to them going brown might turn my bleached hair green (which I’ve had happen.) what if I went like a deep wine color. I’ve don’t that before in college and it looks really good on me. I offered to do that again. She said she’d think about it. I guess I’m just upset that she once oked me matching my hair to the dress to now being told I have to go brown. AITA for not wanting to do that? It’s a wedding, I would never do anything that would clash with a dress and I told her that. I don’t want to be a problem bridesmaid. I’ve tried talking to like my mom about this, but she absolutely hates that I dye my hair random colors as does my sister. So they think I should suck it up and dye my hair brown. I just want some other opinions please.