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Sorry...it's a long one!

Context: During the virus days my bio child "A" ask us to host their friend "M" when colleges shut down. We agreed and they lived with us for 5 years, even calling us mom and dad. They eventually moved out of state to be with thier partner.

While they lived with us, about 6ish years ago, I planned a big vacation and invited my married bio child "P" and thier spouse "L", my two bio kids "A" and "B", and "M". As I was planning "M" made serious accusations against "L" and despite my warring bells going off I rescinded the vacation invite to "P" and "L". After I paid the vacation off, "M" decided not to go, and I could not add guests to the package. Later, I found out the accusations against "L" were completely fabricated. I was upset and hurt over everything.

Last year I started planning another big vacation for later in 2026. I again invited "P" and "L" as well as "A" and "B". I did not invite "M" or thier spouse. "P" and "L" has made it clear they want nothing to do with "M", understandably, and I wanted my vacation do over. "M" has lived out of state for over 4 years with thier partner. They would call only when they needed something, i.e. money or visit if they were in town for medical issues. They rarely communicated with us or my kid "A" whom they say is one of thier best friends.

In October, "M's" life imploded with medical issues and spousal issues. They asked if they could move back in with us and we agreed. We paid for their move with our vacation money, added them to our vehicle insurance and helping them where we can. They are finding it hard to find work (this is true), they are having serious health issues, thier spouse is facing life challenging issues and they have decided to divorce. Despite all this I've been paying off vacation packages and booking flights. I was not giving up this vacation.

Recently, "M" talked to my spouse about how hurt they are that they aren't going with us on vacation. Spouse explained the reasons why: mentioned the previous vacation debacle, that when they were out of state they rarely called or talked to us, shortage of funds from helping them move, and that we wanted "P" and "L" to go. "M" brought up that "P" and "L" live out of area too, and spouse said that they still call and text if not daily at least weekly. My spouse has agreed with me that they should not go, but I feel guilty. My bio kid "A" is caught in the middle. "A" has stated that they are not upset that "M" is not going but upset that "M" is upset. So reddit, Am I the AHole? Should I make changes and add "M"?

My (35f) college bff (36f) is getting married in a year from July. We have been besties since college but only get to see each other once a year. I work remotely for an industry that doesn’t care what my hair looks like. As such I finally embraced myself and now the under side of my hair and a money piece is currently orange but it changes frequently (it’s been purple, pink, and blue so far this year (start of 2026)). The orange is actually staying for longer than the rest as a lot of people I know really like it. When my friend first got engaged she asked me to be a bridesmaid (my hair was teal) and said the dresses would be teal. I asked if she was ok with me color matching my hair to the dress like I did for my cousin’s wedding. She said yes. Fast forward to her visiting me with her fiancé and it turns out they took bets on the color of my hair. I found this funny as he won $5 for it being purple. She then mentioned how she wants the MOH and bridesmaids hair to be brown, blonde, brown and that she’d like my hair a ‘normal’ color. She specifically mentioned wanting it brown. I dye my hair based on how I am feeling and I don’t know how I’ll feel in a year. I said to them going brown might turn my bleached hair green (which I’ve had happen.) what if I went like a deep wine color. I’ve don’t that before in college and it looks really good on me. I offered to do that again. She said she’d think about it. I guess I’m just upset that she once oked me matching my hair to the dress to now being told I have to go brown. AITA for not wanting to do that? It’s a wedding, I would never do anything that would clash with a dress and I told her that. I don’t want to be a problem bridesmaid. I’ve tried talking to like my mom about this, but she absolutely hates that I dye my hair random colors as does my sister. So they think I should suck it up and dye my hair brown. I just want some other opinions please.

Hey Charlotte, long time listener, first time writer but I have a funny little petty revenges story I thought I would share

About 12 years ago I left college and got an apprenticeship at a factory for upholstery working on furniture such as chairs, couches, mattresses, etc

It was my first job and I was learning quite quickly. But as an apprentice, the wage wasn’t exactly much but it was enough. My job was mainly getting materials for others as well as cleaning up after them, a few times I would get to help build some of the arms on the chairs

Most people there were very nice and took me under their wing to train me. But this one person M(54m) didn’t seem to like me that well. M saw me more as a burden than a colleague. He was the bosses best friend and seemed to think he was better than everyone else.

He would throw things on the floor and demand me to clean it up immediately even when I was doing some other work, try to get me and other newbie’s run and grab his food and take it to his car, try to tell us when we were allowed to eat/use the toilet and tried to make us do unsafe work like trying to get us to climb up the shelves that need the forklift to pick up materials and bring them down. He would often say horrible things to us as well like “why would they hire someone stupid and ugly that a donkey would look better next to you” oh boy was he a character.

At lunch time we had a vending machine, fridge and microwave for 30-40 people to use in the one hour break. Yeah it got busy at first but we all made it work out and everything was fine and one day M decided to get a microwave for our department to use only so about 10 people and we were all happy with that until one day I was walking over to use the microwave and M stood in the way and said “what do you think you’re doing?” I told him I was just warming my food up and he said “no, people like you aren’t allowed to use the microwave, you’ll just break it and make it smell”

I decided I had enough of this and argued with him that he wasn’t the boss and this wasn’t his job. But as he was the bosses friend that didn’t go down well for me and he somehow talked the boss into giving me a warning for slacking off and take a wage deduction for something I apparently broke that I know for a fact he broke. M then threatened me and said “I see you near the microwave again and I’ll make sure you regret it”

After that scenario I was furious with this guy and his disgusting behaviour and decided to get a little payback on M. One day I was working a bit late and everyone was just leaving for the day while I finished cleaning up, as I was just finishing up with no one around I went up to M’s microwave and already knowing that it was out of site of cameras, I unplugged it and took the fuse out and plugged it back in then went home.

The next day when lunchtime came around I spotted M looking at the microwave all baffled and frustrated. Someone asked him what was wrong and he said “this stupid machine isn’t working and now I can’t eat my food!” I decided to chime in and said “oh, maybe someone broke it. Have you tried unplugging it and plugging back in?”

He turned around very abruptly said “don’t you dare talk to me you little shit!” So I just walked away with a little smirk on my face. Eventually M decided he would take the microwave to a repair shop over the weekend and came back in the next week beyond furious after the shop owner told him it would work if you had the fuse in the plug. M then started demanding about who took the fuse and to give it back to him immediately. After a few weeks he calmed down but was still treating the newbie’s like crap.

About 4 months after this I decided to hand my notice in and as I was on my last day I went around everyone and thanking them for everything they had taught me and hope they all have a great time for the future.

As I was getting to M leaving him for last I approached him and he started with “I’m surprised anyone else would even want to hire someone as heavy and useless as you at a different place” and I said “well at least I won’t have to be best friends with the boss to hide my horrible attitude and flaws” and just as I was about to walk away I turn to him and said “oh, you know that fuse that went missing from your microwave? I think you might want this back now then” and dropped the fuse in front of him cut into 2 pieces. I walked out of there with my head high and laughing as I could hear M screaming in rage calling me a “little shit”

So yeah that was my first of a few petty revenges I have done. Shout out to M if you’re reading this just want to let you know that I’m a fully qualified joiner now with a very well paying job and a beautiful wife who doesn’t think I’m ugly or stupid and definitely prefers me over a donkey

Alright Reddit, buckle up because this one is messy.

So a while back, I (27F) went on a first date with this girl, let’s call her Lily. We went to a well-known pub in our area — cute, cosy, good vibes, the whole thing felt like it was going too well in that “is this a trap?” kind of way.

Mid-date, I get a text from my friend — we’ll call her Cara.

She sends:

“What’s silver and black?”

I’m staring at my phone like an idiot. Lily leans over and goes, “Your car?”

And suddenly I’m thinking my car’s been stolen, keyed, set on fire, whatever.

So I go outside.

Car’s fine.

Not a scratch.

I go back in.

Then Cara sends me a photo of my car.

Taken RIGHT NOW.

From SOMEWHERE NEARBY.

So now I’m outside again, looking around like I’m in a budget horror film. No one’s there. No Cara. No boyfriend. No nothing.

I go back inside, sit down, and tell Lily, “They’re probably just messing about.”

AND THEN —

Like they’d been waiting for their dramatic entrance —

Cara and her boyfriend walk into the pub and sit down RIGHT NEXT TO US.

On. My. First. Date.

They fully inserted themselves into the evening like they were my parents meeting my prom date. I wanted to evaporate. Lily handled it like a saint. I handled it like someone dying inside.

Fast forward 2–4 months.

Me and Lily? Still going strong. Still having a great time. And on one date, I finally ask her to be my girlfriend.

She says yes.

I’m over the moon.

And then my phone starts blowing up.

It’s Cara.

And she is LOSING IT.

Because her boyfriend is away for work and apparently I’m supposed to be her emotional support human. She starts calling me names, accusing me of “abandoning” her, acting like I’ve committed a war crime by being in a relationship.

So I block her. Everywhere. Because I’m not doing that drama.

A few days later, I try to be civil and message her asking if we can talk. She agrees. We meet at a coffee shop.

She tells me she’s upset because “all my time is going to Lily” and I “don’t think of her anymore.”

I explain — calmly — that in 2.5 months I’ve seen Lily maybe nine or ten times, and half of those were because we go to the same gym. I wasn’t ignoring anyone. I was just… dating someone.

She didn’t like that.

She stormed out.

And I haven’t heard from her since.

Lily is convinced Cara was in love with me and didn’t know how to say it, so instead she acted like a jealous ex she never actually was.

Honestly? The behaviour fits.

So Reddit…

AITA for cutting her off? Or was she secretly in love with me and just handled it like a feral raccoon?

AIO...

Right, here's the deal. My family say I overreacted as I opened my mouth to them about how I feel.

Every single year be it families birthdays/ mothers days/ Christmas/ summer outings etc I literally plan every single thing. I plan each and every detail and I am always left to do so. Literally noone bothers to help me!

All anyone ever does is come to me and ask what we are doing so and so day, to which if I reply I don't know nothings planned I get told well shouldn't you get planning then times getting on etc.

This sort of stuff even happened with my dad's funeral 9 years ago not one of my siblings came forward to help me arrange that funeral not 1 single part of it yet when all the family flowers turned up they all tried to move them to where they wanted them etc so I blew my lid and told them to get their grubby useless hands off said flowers and told them all exactly why.

Yet it doesn't ever seem to matter what I plan what we do etc is always always left to me to plan for then at least one person to try mess with when the event actually begins yet none of them bothered to help with the planning of any of the events.

Ive planned birthday parties for every single member of my family over the years yet not once has anyone ever planned a party for me. Damn they havent even planned so much as a lunch out for me ever so AIO?

To start this off, I’m currently living with my boyfriend, and because I’m having a high-risk pregnancy, I can’t have s*x right now. That said, I still try to meet his needs and be intimate with him in other ways.

I’m 38F and he’s 35M. We’ve been together for about 6 months, and we moved in together after finding out I was pregnant because he wanted to be involved in the baby’s daily life. Like most couples, we’ve had ups and downs, but we usually talk things out and work through things together.

The issue started in March when I found out he was using OnlyFans. When I confronted him, he first told me he had only looked at the site and hadn’t done anything else. But after digging more, I found out he actually had an account under a different email and was paying/subscribing to women’s pages.

I know some people see OnlyFans as no different than porn, and that’s fine for them. But for me, I had already made it clear that one of my boundaries was that I’m not comfortable with a partner paying for sexual content or interacting with women on platforms like OnlyFans, where private messages and custom requests can happen. To me, that feels much more personal and intimate than just watching porn.

What hurts even more is that he had previously told me he would NEVER pay for content like that. Then I found out he’d had the account since we first started dating, meaning he already knew this was a boundary for me and still planned to keep doing it behind my back.

The lying and hiding honestly hurt more than the account itself. I asked him how he would feel if I knowingly crossed one of his boundaries and hid it from him.

He agreed to delete the account, but I honestly don’t know if he actually did or if he just changed the email and kept it hidden better.

Now I’m struggling with what to do. Am I overreacting? Is this something relationships can realistically move past, or is this the kind of breach of trust that should make me reconsider staying?

AITA: This is my first time ever posting. But as someone who chooses not to advertise issues with family (they know the basics) i need some input. Personally I dont feel like im in the wrong especially being his reaction gives me great joy. 🤣 here is the back story and its a long one.

I (44f) met the man child (49m) I am married to 20 years ago. We have been married 15 years. I had 2 daughters when we met aged 4 and 2. Due to circumstances he moved in with me fast. We now have a son who is 19 and my daughters are 24 and 22. Three years after we got married his drinking got out of hand and he turned physical. I kicked him out and we lived separate for several years but still did stuff together as a family as long as he wasn't drinking.

He would have our son every other week. It got to the point my sone no longer wanted to go to his father's as he would drink and have his friends there constantly. Things got bad again and I ended up having him arrested and a full stay away order issued for me and the kids.

The pandemic hit which made court stop so it was all at a stand still. Surprisingly he got sober. And after two years of him being sober we talked and he moved back in with me. I made it clear to him if he started drinking again I was done. He turns into a completely different person when he drinks. Within a year of him moving back in I settled with workers comp and purchased our property. Stupidly I believed in his sobriety and added his name to the property.

Well long story short he started coming home smelling of alcohol. Id ask and he would lie to my face so I again reminded him I would not deal with him drinking. Within 2 weeks he couldn't lie about it anymore. 6 years of sobriety gone. So I told him I was done.

His drinking got bad fast after that and he tried to set my couch on fire and said he would burn the house down with me and the kids in it. I had him arrested again and removed. I made it clear to him I was done and we needed to figure out the divorce without fighting preferably. Due to his tools etc being in my garage I lowered the order to non harassment so his coworkers didn't have to keep coming to get his tools.

SIDE NOTE I am 100% disabled due to my neck, nerve damage, shoulder, lower spine, right hip and right knee. I havent been able to work since 2010. When I settled my case I no longer had income coming in. When the drinking started so did the digs and names calling, running me down etc. He got sober again and the friend he was staying with was headed to jail so he had nowhere to go. After 3 months of him wearing me down I agreed he could put his camper on the property temporarily.

He started saying he wanted to move back in and make it work. I kept saying no. While he was trying to make me take him back I found out he was messaging other woman and trying to sleep with them. The drinking started again and he turned to trying to guilt trip me into sleeping with him and being with him by using the finances against me and saying im his wife and he should be allowed to have sex whenever he wants it and me saying no is why hes looking elsewhere. So I stand my ground and tell him I no longer even have desire for affection and intimacy as he has ruined it for me. His response was i must be with someone else then.

(Also found out he was using coke) he has gone off the rails accusing me. And seriously thinking he hears me and my "boyfriend " ( who doesn't exist) having giggity at night. (He sits on my porch listening) and that my boyfriend hides whenever he comes in the house. Its so much more in depth of crazy but thats the gist of it. He has actually called the cops on me and my " boyfriend " saying we were in his camper under his bed getting it on...... ( the bed that goes to the floor and you cant get under)

he keeps saying the judge will not make him leave the land as I have no income (working on getting disability) and he won't pay me alimony. I was just continuing to say no one is here you need help etc. Finally I said we will let the judge decide and go with what the court says. This set him off and he started saying im threatening to take his home from him etc and still uses finances against me.

If I say I won't sleep with him he says he won't keep paying the bills like we agreed to while he was on the land. His new thing is calling me names and running me down in messages all the time. When that wasn't getting the reaction he wanted he started using my name and nickname trying to irritate me. Again that didn't have the desired affect but I was sick of it.

So the reason for my post. Due to just being done. I have started using his name on him. Now side note he is a junior and hates that fact. So I started with just his name which set him off and made him double down on running me down etc. So I started adding the junior and oh boy does he go off the rails when I do. Accuses me of calling him names the whole nine yard. So fellow readers am I the AH for purposefully using his name just to piss him off? Meanwhile i am working on the divorce with the help of a local advocate center as he is abusive and i have no income. ​

My (20F) husband (20M) has 2 moms. A step mom, Beth (mid-late30’s) and his bio mom Kate(39F).

Kate and Beth are no contact unless absolutely necessary. Kate always somehow knows what’s going on in her ex husband’s household. Apparently a “mutual friend” informs her of everything that she knows. I suspected my husbands sisters were the ones sharing information until I spoke to Beth about this mutual friend who tells Kate all her business, and I told her what was said. Beth said that she didn’t tell the daughters that information, and proceeded to say that sometimes she thinks that Kate bugged their phones. She didn’t try to find out who the friend is because she already had other problems.

Fast forward to today, Kate started spilling more information to me from this friend. She never tells me the name of this person but I’ve always felt sorry for Beth, because the things that this mystery woman tells Kate seems personal in nature. It’s messed up because Beth doesn’t associate with Kate by choice, so to tell anyone- especially HER this information is giving fake bitch.

I’ll give some context of what’s being said- Beth is in the process of a divorce, so naturally she tells a trusted friend about it 😑. But this woman disgusts me. All I know is that she’s Beth’s ex-coworker.