AIO girl texts abuser and calls me crazy
I (24F) recently ended a 2.5-year relationship with my ex, "Dre" 26m (idk what else to call him his name is too specific). He was severely physically and mentally abusive, a total textbook narcissist, and a serial cheater. I am ready to get this off my chest, but right now, I need perspective on how his ex-girlfriend, "Cait," treated me. To give you some background on Cait: Early in my relationship with Dre, I caught him cheating with her. They were sending nudes and reminiscing about sex, even though she has two kids with her current boyfriend. I stayed, but things got worse. Dre used to manipulate me by saying, "Go ask Cait, I treated her like a princess, she was the toxic one." So, I actually reached out to her. She complained about him but didn't mention violence. Because she knew what he was like, I opened up to her. I showed her photos of my injuries and detailed the horrific abuse he put me through. I begged her not to talk to him because he uses his exes for attention. I over-explained that I didn't think she would sleep with him, I just didn't want him to have access to her. Cait promised me she wouldn't text him. I said cool. Well, she lied. Dre was logged into TikTok on my tablet, and I saw that she started a conversation with him. At first, I only saw that she messaged him, so I sent her a polite text saying: "You lied to me, I'm not sure why, but good luck in life." I sent a screenshot and blocked her. But then, I dug deeper into the chat. I saw that she actually agreed with Dre when he called me "crazy." I was floored. This man has put me through absolute hell. He text-cheated on me the night I was having a miscarriage, and he even forced me to hang out with a person who assaulted me because he "didn't believe me." Cait knew about almost all of this, yet she sat there and called me crazy to his face. I decided to confront her on Instagram. Here is the exact script of our messages: Me: Hello! Not sure if you use this account anymore but if you end up seeing it, you end up seeing it. Been thinking about this for a few days ! Its (my name) by the way. So yea, what you said about me being crazy, about me not wanting you to text him was purley out of him not feeling like he has access to you as hes a pure textbook narcissist. Not because you have a family, or because youd flirt. And when i called him out for lying, before i even mentioned that was my point, he addmitted that himSELF. You literally just gave him access to you. That was it. I probably wouldn't give a sht if yall even fucked. Oh and ps, i was never mad about your polaroids, hes a liar, and apologized for it. He makes up shit to everyone to make me look bad and i have proof against every single thing hes lied about, including the polaroids, because he apologized for lying on text and in the recording i got of us fighting! So ☺️ if you never see this, at least i got that off my chest. Happy now ☺️ goodbye!* Cait: ugh (my name) I'm sorry. I promise I do not want that man child. I had messaged him in the first place because he kept viewing my tiktok account. I honestly don't recall calling you crazy so I apologize for that, truly. I've always liked you and have enjoyed our convos. I know how he is and I promise he doesn't have access to me. I literally blocked him after what was said because truly I have zero interest in talking to him. Like I told you on messenger I wanted to get in contact with Jess lol. I honestly should've messaged you after we had texted and told you, I just didn't think twice about it after I blocked him because I genuinely don't think nor care about him. I'm sorry if I upset you! I promise that's not my intentions even if it seems that way. M Me: Not intersted in the fake empathy / diversion / false attempts at being a "girls girl." I do not care if you guys want each other. You still completely are missing the point. He is a narcissist and you fueled it. You are one of the token exes and not the only one he looked at. After forcing me to break up with him after severe physical and emotional abuse. You calling someone you are aware was treated like that crazy for asking the bare minimum from you, as a woman to another, is shameful. Me: I know you dont value me as a person, or feel bad about what you did, and thats perfectly fine. I am going to block you now that i know youve seen this as i am not intersted in having someone who behaves that way in my life or even associated with me. Thanks! Good luck with your children, etc. Please mature! Goodbye. Right after reading that, she reacted to my final message with a laughing face emoji. I completely blocked her after that. I am so nervous to post this, but am I overreacting? Please don't ask why I didn't leave him sooner; I tried so hard to love him. But what do you all think about her behavior?