Grandparenting
So my wife and I have guardianship of three of our grandchildren. Two are 18 now and one is 14. We went and got them from NC when their mother and her bf were running out of money to live in hotels after they got evicted from their apartment for the third time living down there. (“Drugs in the relation”)We brought them to Ohio under the promise that at least Mom would be up in two weeks to help w them and get back on her feet. Well, in July it will be two years. Kids are pretty good. Good students. Quiet but respectful. We helped the oldest get her license and a car to help getting the other two to school. She actually graduates today! They all have jobs too.
Last night at 1:50am we got a call from local police that they were all in custody after being pulled over. We didn’t even know they had left. Granddaughter was driving. Car smelled like weed. All got searched. Driver clean and sober thank goodness. But both boys were holding THC vapes. One had a roach. Ashes all over his pants. And clearly both boys stoned to the bone. They had us come get the 14 year old. Told the other two to go home. Took their weed pens and didn’t charge them with anything.
They got pretty lucky I’d say. Thing is now we don’t know what to do about discipline. It’s not like we wanted them arrested! What a hassle! But they have never had much discipline ever. And we don’t want to push them back to their parents who already have an obvious drug problem. But I feel like something has to be done. Helping them get jobs. To and from jobs. Just to spend that money on weed doesn’t sit right. We have no problem with adult cannabis use. But firm believer that kids have no business getting high. What advice does anyone have as to what’s next? I don’t feel that telling them “don’t ever do that again!” is gonna be enough. But the two 18 year olds could say I’m outta here if we’re not careful. Man. I didn’t sign up for this.