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This sounds awful and I know it does…but I’m wondering if anyone else feels the same way…

I grew up and succeeded in just about every aspect of my life without even trying. Straight As, fantastic dancer, talented gymnast. Didn’t have ANY confidence at school socially. Was a total loser and that did affect me BUT i had SO much confidence in my ability to DO things.

My daughter is 5 and in kindergarten. She is struggling HARD in school. Cannot even recognize numbers 1-10. Second year ballet and looks like she has no clue. Trying tennis this year….oof rough. Gymnastics….so uncoordinated.

I obviously love her and encourage her and tell her I’m proud of how hard she works. But I’m nervous she is just going to struggle in every aspect of her life and I can’t or don’t know how to help her.

I can’t help but think I have done something to do this to her. Like letting her eat poor quality foods or too much screen time. I let her suck her thumb til she was 4 and she has a high palate and mouth breathes. It’s been a year of myo therapy and a palate expander. I just have so much guilt and I’m terrified of her struggling so hard with no relief.

Editing to add that I am in no way disappointed in her. I just worry for her own self confidence. I want her to succeed for her own gratification of working hard and achieving. I also have an 18 yr old with a nasty case of adhd. And he is getting by by the skin of his teeth. We are counting down the days til he graduates so he can move on and succeed in life. I know he will. I have zero doubts. But school is torture for him and he just has to “make it through”. I don’t want that struggle for her too.

Ideas to engage with my baby

Hi,

I follow this community and get lots of insight in parenting. However there is one thing I have not get it right.

I have almost 2 year old daughter. She goes to daycare for 8 hour. My guilt for it for some other day but for rest 3-4 hours that she spends at home or weekends is itself so hard for me to keep her playful at home. She loves going out which my husband does twice on weekends or whenever daycare is closed.

At home she does spend much time with toys. She is not much interested in role plays or puzzles. She likes turning over books but that gets over in a minute.

Also she is still blabbering and have no words than mamma papa.

I want to play with her. I feel enough bad for sending her to daycare and I feel even more bad when I am feel scared of her coming home.😭😭

Edit Thanks to all for their wonderful ideas. I tried a few of them and now I am changing barbies clothes also 🙃. These responses also reminded me that playing with my daughter is not a task rather l should enjoy it. So big thanks again.