u/PieSweet5550

*I hope this post is okay mods if not please remove, currently using he/him until I’m told otherwise, and personally don’t want to invalidate he/him lesbians*

I’m a queer not-so-lady sorta-lady person who is attracted to women and fem people.

My partner of 3 years (D) said last week after therapy “I’m not a man.” 🥹

My partner had a dream the other day about being a sexy fem character from a game he really likes.

Earlier today (yesterday actually) D says to me “I just want to be a lesbian”

Y’all. This is not new to me. My partner is writing a fantasy book where it’s been explained to me that the character D is writing as the self-insert most with is… a lesbian.

So I said “baby… you can do that. That can happen.” And multiple openly trans people already work at D’s job which D just got promoted for. I tried to be as encouraging as possible. So far we’ve had a couple of conversations but nothing where my partner has expressed himself this much.

So far obviously it’s for my partner to process and decide how D feels about moving forward. D has been pretty depressed & self expresses a lot through video games (in a way I find smart and cute).

QUESTION: When you were first acknowledging you were not cis, what could your partner have done to encourage your confidence?

I have an unrelated bachelor's but am planning to pursue a 1 year certificate in architectural technology.

I'm based in the midwest in the US, and a lot of the job postings I come across or seek out are listing that you have to have a B.Arch/M.Arch or seeking licensure. I'm not really sure I want to be doing that.

I'm not worried about AI takeover as I don't think companies are ready to integrate it operationally quite yet, but I am concerned that maybe for this specific area of drafting (architecture) I am underestimating the requirements for entry level & I'd rather not waste my time if I won't be an in-demand candidate.

Fwiw, I do have something of a mentorship going on right now with an architect and that's been promising, but perhaps enlightening that I don't want to become an architect.