My story with my narcissistic mother. Something has to change!!
I am the only child of a narcissistic mom. As a child, I did not know this, but now that I am much older, I do think back on what happened after her divorce, and I see true signs. I am also in therapy once a month, and it was confirmed that she is narcissistic. My mom constantly blamed me for things as a kid. Made me feel guilty, and kept saying I am like my dad. At age 20, I had enough and left and moved away. But that was not the end. Whenever I saw her or talked to her, it came back: the controlling, the guilt-tripping, the arguments or fights over nothing, the secrets she kept from me, and telling me days later when someone passed away. I was not even at the funeral of my own grandmother.
I moved away further, overseas. Overseas. Things did not change. As an only child, I can’t just cut the lines. It's not all that easy.
I got married, I have two kids, and a wife. Nothing changed with mom. If anything, it got to a new level. Controlling when she is with the kids, not liking my wife, and talking badly about her. Making it sound like my wife does not let the kids interact with her. Which was completely ridiculous. Just a pain and a big deal over small things. Everything is a drama.
Constant conspiracy theories about other family members. Everyone betrayed her, and she is nothing but nice and has done so much for me, according to her. Always a victim. Dad passed away. Nothing changed. She talks badly about him to this day.
Never wants me to talk to other family members. And I have no clue why.
Even if we see her once a year, there are fights and arguments. My wife does ONE thing that is a personal boundary for her, and mom freaks out. Cries, tells me I am so changed, and my wife has no manners. Says she cried all night, could not sleep. Shows my wife the cold shoulder. Horrible.
She hoards her money, keeps promising to help and send us some, but nope, it rarely happens. I gave up hope and my expectations.
Yes, I would love to be loved and looked up to for all I have accomplished in my life. It does not happen. Instead, I am being told how good and great she is and all she has ever done.
There is much more to say. I just had to vent.
Feel free to share your opinion, ask your questions, or send me a message. Talking to people that understand feels good. Most of my friends do not. They think she is so friendly and awesome.
Thank you for reading :)