u/Pixiel4ted

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Went on leave from work...

So I started working at a college as a student advisor and the workload is very high, but fairly rewarding, so I've been okay in the general department.

Two main things, boss consistently and randomly adds extra work to us... they're chaotic and unorganised and that part I cannot handle. Also have a classic narc coworker who thinks they're the secondary boss who refuses to properly communicate with all of us, is enabled by the boss, and adds a lot of random stress because attention HAS to be on them and they have a reward kink. (Which also means if you pitch an idea and it's dismissed, if they think it's a good idea, they'll respin it and take full credit... whatever if it's just important stuff that needs to be done, but gets petty and scathing after so many times).

In any case, been closely working with this team past the 6 month probation and when I started the boss and one of the coworkers were supposed friends of mine. I was drowning and decided to try out adhd meds that were ultimately okay but made me feel high all the time, that wasn't ideal. When we increased the dose I had bad symptoms and had to go back down promptly, but the meds gave me the clarity I needed that I needed to take stress leave, as they weren't the fix I needed. Some serious thought and healing time was.

Fast forward a month and a half... I was finally approved for leave for another month to ensure I'm good on the new meds and ready to head back in a better state. We upped my therapy, got me on antidepressants, and I've gotten back to feeling like myself, now it's just getting the meds to a fully good spot. Anyways... not a single person has reached out to make sure I'm okay. I've worked closely with these folks for like 8 months... no-one has checked in with me. There was 10 of us. Not a single one.

At this point... I don't think I can go back for the sheer fact of: clearly no-one gives a shit about the person they've been othering and the situation they've been unnecessarily adding stress all the time out of their egos (my guess honestly). Two of them were supposedly friends of mine, and one of them literally for like years starting in school. Not a peep.

Just wondering peoples thoughts because I'm struggling to think I can walk back in there and feel okay about everything.

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u/Pixiel4ted — 1 day ago