u/Plane_Grand1580

Hey guys. As posted earlier, I have a wife who is VERY opposed to ABDL in any form. However, I’m having a very very hard time having the will to quit. My desire to engage in this is super strong. Honestly, it’s to the point where I feel suppressed enough that I do not want to be intimate with her. She has noticed this and keeps questioning why. I told her a pretty watered down version of the truth, but I think she gets the idea. We ended up getting into a huge fight about this as well as my out of control OCD tendencies. I’m just not sure what to do here, because I’m also mad at her for her lack of support. I’m in the wrong, but it feels like I can’t talk to her. Anyone else faced something like this?

Hey guys, was really happy to find this thread. It’s always seemed to me that almost all ABDL discussions are for the people that live the hardcore lifestyle and not for probably most people who have an up and down struggle.

I’ve had a draw to diapers since right after potty training, and used to sneak diapers since I was 4. I am an evangelical Christian and always struggled with these desires since they became sexual around puberty. I’m now a 27 year old husband and sincerely struggling. I hoped that when I got married and was able to express sexuality that the desires would at least diminish. However, that has not been remotely the case. I get strong urges to act on my feelings every 1-3 months and I just have to sit and struggle for a matter of weeks. My wife used to let me wear once a week, but has since taken a no tolerance policy on this.

I’m currently in sex therapy, but it seems like it’s just learning tools to take into the struggle and understanding myself. I don’t know what to do. I feel like it would be reasonable for my wife to find some middle ground. Also, I avoid porn and wearing/acting behind her back as a matter of conviction. I’m Not asking her to be involved whatsoever, and I can understand that her just seeing me that way could really damage her. Part of me wants to quit, but another part of my just hopes she can give a few inches and we can have fun together.

Really struggling too that the only person that I can openly talk to is my therapist, but I can’t afford to meet with her as much as I need right now. So, I’m hoping to find some help here

Thanks everyone!