u/PlasticBird639 — reddlx

Gooseworx Says Jax was for Exorcising her Pre-trans Demons. And so, I have bad news for her...

I have bad news for Goose. Jax's problem is not that he was a closeted anything, a bully, or even that he enjoyed making others suffer (well, those are big problems yes, but they can be dealt with and ppl do all the time)

No, Jax's real problem is that he's a textbook NPD'er (narcissistic personality disorder)

Put simply, the core of being an NPD'er is that your brain literally can't consider other people as really having their separate existences independent of the subject's relation to them (and with their own same rights and weight as the subject)

The simplest example is after he virtually doomed everyone to stay trapped in the circus just because HE was scared: The way he processes is just "it wasn't real so it doesn't matter", completely failing to realize what he did and what it means.

This is not to say an NPD'er can't feel bad, and Jax does feel bad, but since they can't perceive others properly, it's always a nebulous bad feeling abt how HE feels hurt and lost and things should be better in some abstract way, as he does in ep 7 and 9, but whatever their perspective, it never includes other ppl as existing without their observing them. Which is amply shown in ep 9.

And so, we come to the 'bad news' for Goose, which is: there's no cure to being an NPD'er... you can't "exorcise your demons", your brain is just that way till you die

u/PlasticBird639 — 8 hours ago

▲ 94 r/NPD

Non pwNPD confuse me a lot

It makes no sense to me, really. If you hate narcissism, why are you also against treatment for it? Why do you insist it is hopeless? Why do you insist that we do not change?

If this disorder, according to you, makes harmful people, then why don't you want hurtful people to get help and... stop being hurtful? It's like you guys want to keep creating spaces for those you deem as victims of us, without fixing the core issue.

"You won't listen to those who know better than you" pissed me off beyond words too NGL. This is not due to my ego. This is my career. This will be my life. I am in school to help NPD and ASPD because everyone else is doing an ass job at it. I do not understand how 50% is not good enough. It is progress, and not a fixed statistic.
Everyone is worth helping. I am the narcissist, why do I hold more empathy and compassion for mental health groups I am not a part of in comparison to people without NPD?

ATP am I really a narcissist or is evb just genuinely dumber than me😭

u/PlasticBird639 — 3 months ago

▲ 76 r/NPD

Here we go with the Narcissists can't change experts

No hate to the OP at all. It's a genuine question. My issue is all the comments acting like narcissistic experts cause they watch a lot of vids online about it.
80% of these people don't even know it's a diagnosis. Of the 20% that do, most of them don't believe in remission. Changing is hard, remission is hard. Apparently that's understandable in BPD, HPD, Cluster C, etc. But the line is drawn at NPD😭

I'm just annoyed. It's like, here we go again with the online Justice Warriors. (Not said in an Anti-Woke way)
People like to act like you're either in a good or bad box and once you're put in that box that's where you're stuck forever. 40% of us go into remission with just 2 years of therapy, but that's apparently irrelevant. People in those comments are acting like we're supervillains who go "muehehehehe" when we see a kind person.

u/PlasticBird639 — 3 months ago

▲ 14 r/NPD

NPD vs HPD

How did you know the difference?

I am diagnosed with NPD. I occasionally talk about it publicly online. And under every single video, there is at least one person saying, "you probably have HPD. People with NPD can't have this much self awareness."
Obviously, that's bullshit. Just take a glance at this sub.
But during my last attention deficit, it felt like I was going to die if I couldn't get someone to pay attention to / praise me. And it made me wonder how people even tell the difference if they're both heavily rooted in a need for attention. I don't know too much about HPD, but I think some of the comments claiming I had it got to my head. IDK.

How did you guys end up differentiating it?

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u/PlasticBird639 — 3 months ago

▲ 52 r/NPD

Using superiority to be a better person?

Does anyone else do this?

I am not technically good person. I know I'm not. But I feel like I cosplay one pretty well and continue to do so for the praise it gets me.

I am known as a morally upstanding person. I volunteer, I speak up about social issues and spread awareness, I help those in need, etc etc. But it's mostly cause now, I am superior to those who stayed silent. I am superior to those who do not do the things I do. I am simply better, and I brag and brag until the person seems ashamed of their lack of good deeds. Even though I'm not even mostly doing it out of the goodness of my heart.

I always take accountability when I'm wrong, because I now look better than those who don't. I think I am always right or justified regardless. But I will still take accountability and apologize, showing growth and blah blah blah cause look at me look how emotionally mature I am.
The average person, narcissistic or not, has problems admitting when they're wrong. So, I do the opposite and look greater in comparison. I am always told about how emotionally mature I am to be able to easily accept my wrongdoings, and I love it. I am great at making apologies sound sincere and genuine.
This also allows me to deflect accountability and turn it into the other person when I do something more extreme that I don't wanna admit wrongdoing to. Cause I take accountability all of the time-- I must be in the right because I always admit when I'm wrong.

Despite being a quietly judgmental person, I will go and degrade / embarrass someone for being openly judgmental. Something I often say is "Oh. Well, I'm too important to care about what others do with their lives but that's not everyone I guess," which quickly shuts people up.
I am incredibly outspoken and grandiose, so doing all of this stuff keeps the admiration on me and makes others look inferior. It also gives me the power to influence others.

I think my sense of superiority drives me to do good things desire not having good intentions. Which is why I say I am technically not a good person. If these things did not get me praise and admiration, I do not believe I would do them.
I'm not doing good stuff all of the time, obviously. When I feel envious of someone, I still subtly degrade them. Or ruin their reputation using my good record as leverage. I still use people until they stop benefitting me. I still enjoy making people feel small in comparison. I still emotionally fuck with my friends if I feel too bored. Etc. Etc.

I was just wondering if anyone else's intense sense of superiority is also a driving factor for good deeds.
If so, what are some of the things it's driven you to do?

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u/PlasticBird639 — 3 months ago