I met up with the affair partners wife... -UPDATE x4
Settlement hearing is the 16th of June. I have an offer on the table of paying her out of the property and paying her $2000 a month in child support and alimony. She is still trying to keep the property also but has no way of buying me out. Had a lady reach out to me telling me she caught her husband spending the night at the stbxw apartment. Sad because they have two young kids.
She is also being charged criminally for a dog that was killed at her/our dog boarding business that is on the property. She has been super slow for business and i thought it was odd so i did some investigation. She is also being civilly sued for $6000. Found out she is flat broke and behind on her bills, she still finds time for weekend getaways and sand volleyball - bjj. She is chaos and am so relieved it is almost over. Im hoping now that she doesnt try and take this to trial and drag it out any longer.
----Shania and I are going strong, I have now hung out with her and her kids a couple times. It started out as just me coming over and fixing her sons car and helper her fix some things around her house. Now her kids are asking if she can find things for me to do so I can come back over, so i would say its went well. She also has a CPO on her ex for her and the kids.
----The affair started in Novemberish of 2024 and this is where my life is now. It can be such a long process, it can have its up and downs but if people just take it a day at a time their is always light at the end of the tunnel. My kids are doing great and have done my best to keep their lives unchanged, keeping them in there sports etc. Betrayal destroys alot and it takes time before you can even rebuild. You control what you can control, I have a whole plan of rebuild once this is all over, ive been planning this for months and am excited to initiate it.