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Possible rectal tightness - tips/tricks?

Hi everyone!

I joined this sub just today because I’ve had the most unusual symptoms start off this week and my doctors appointment isn’t until next week so in the meantime I’ve just been trying to figure out what is going on and if I can help myself at all.

As a background, I’ve never suffered from constipation, maybe the off chance once or twice in my life I’ve had a hard stool issue but it was always corrected quite quick with upping my healthy foods etc, doesn’t last. I have a BM everyday, if I eat too much the night before I can have maybe 2 in a day, but I’m regular with once a day for sure, in the morning hours.

So about 5 days ago, I came home from a road trip and tried to go poo as soon as I got home. It was about a 4 hour drive, and I think even during the 3 day trip my BMs maybe weren’t as consistent because it wasn’t my home toilet etc. I found when I got home that I was able to go but I didn’t feel like I emptied fully. I strained a bit more than usual to pass what was medium to soft stool and figured I was just a bit backed up thanks to the trip and eventually whatever was backed up would come out.

By the next day, I had another BM but again this was soft formed poop that took more straining that poop of that consistency should take and I still didnt feel emptied out, so as you can imagine that is quite the uncomfortable feeling. I had started taking prenatal the week before and I immediately clocked that the Iron in the prenatals might have created some hard stools as I’ve heard they can do that, I just didn’t put two and two together before. So I’m still not worried I just think I’ll eventually pass the harder stool out.

Next day, still no luck passing any of the stool that feels stuck right at the rectum, I have a BM but again it’s not hard and it doesn’t relieve the pressure I’m feeling but it’s a decent amount of poop but it’s semi soft and smallish pieces.

That night, I really start to get frustrated as I hate the feeling of having to go, I try to push pretty hard a few times and nothing. it feels like it’s at the end of the rectum. I eventually tried to digitally disimpact but I’m unable to feel anything up there in terms of stuck poop, so maybe it’s further up than it feels like. Rectum feels fairly tight i notice.

the next day, I end up wiping quite a bit because I’m trying to push out this stuck poop and instead keep pushing out regular soft poop and maybe poop that wasn’t even ready to come out. I think the vigorous pushing and wiping end up causing inflammation so I have to stop, apply Vaseline and let the burning stop. I ended up taking a Tylenol later that day to help with the painful burning and it provided great relief. I also note that the sensation of stuck poop was also decreased by almost 90-100% after taking the Tylenol.

the next day (yesterday) I come to the conclusion that there probably isn’t any stuck stool at all. I feel like at least some hard pebbles would have come out by now, and I don’t feel anything when I’ve gloved up and tried to take some out. I just feel that there is a fullness and incomplete evactuation as I’m sitting/walkinf around etc. I at this point think I could have internal hemroids that are causing the sensation of fullness. again like I mentioned, my doctors appt is next week so I don’t know for sure, this can still be the culprit.

it was today that I read a little bit about tight rectal muscles and tight sphincter and right now I think my symptoms most feel like this. by yesterday, the feeling of fullness/tightness in the rectum was very very uncomfortable. Not painful necessarily but distractingly uncomfortabl, like I couldnt concrentrate on work or even watching TV. I felt like I was sitting on a hard ball of stool.

today, I realized that massaging around the anus and rectum opening really felt nice. it was a temporary relief but massage those areas made that pressure feeling subside a bit which was so great. It was then that I had the thought, are my ass muscles just really freaking tight? from the earlier attempts to digitally disimpact myself, I knew my sphincter is SUPER tight as well. I gloved up again and just sort of tried to massage it loose with a lubricated finger and that felt really good, relieved the pressure for a few minutes for sure, but it quickly came back once the massage stopped. I also took a really hot shower and that also relieved a lot of the pressure feeling/feeling like there was poop there. Finally, I remembered how nice the Tylenol worked for relieving the pressure feeling and took another one today and wow, it’s all gone. I feel back to normal completely. I don’t anticipate this to be a permanent solution, obviously, but wow, no feeling of impacted poop, no tightness of the anus when sitting on toilet even to pee (that had started to happen earlier today before the Tylenol, my pee was coming out a bit slowly for the first few seconds because I just felt TIGHT near my anus as soon as I sat down to pee). All those symptoms completely gone with Tylenol, I no longer feel constipated AT ALL. I don’t feel like I’m sitting on a hard piece of poop at my rectum.

also to note, this entire time I’ve had no other GI symptoms other than the feeling of hard to pass poop at the rectum. No bloating, gas, uncomfortable guts, anything that would accompany constipation, and I still had a BM everyday, although they have been soft and not as formed as my usual BM, but that could be due to the trip I took where I wasnt eating my usual homemade food.

My inkling is that because all feelings of constipation disappeared with Tylenol, hot showers and massage feeling good, and the fact that prior to Tylenol sneezing and coughing would create an unpleasant sensation at the rectum muscles, that this could be a tight muscle issue. I’ve never had anything lile this before but I will note I’ve been extra stressed this year and constantly feeling like I’m in fight or flight? i just hope whatever switched on 5 days ago and made my ass so tight will eventually switch off because passing even soft BMs is straining, which i think is creating a negative feedback loop of making my muscles even tighter because I’m afraid of the pain, peeing is slower and feels slightly strained to get it going, and the feeling of tightness and pressure on the rectum is distractingly uncomfy.

like I said, I still have a doctors appointment to get a professional opinion, but in the meantime, has anyone experienced something like this? Did anything at home help? stretching? I know a PFPT would be the next step if it turns out I’m right.

As of right now, I feel perfect and so relieved. the Tylenol has sorted me completely but I haven’t had a BM while on the Tylenol…since I already had one this morning, but I have no pressure or feeling of stuck poop at all. I’m thinking of taking a Tylenol tomorrow morning before my usual BM and see if it comes out nice and smooth and without strain.

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u/Plenty_Cup_5152 — 1 day ago

The Night We Met - Abby Jimenez

okay this post is about to be a massive critique of this book because I have no one to talk about this with, and then at the end ill ask for recommendations based on what I do like:

I really really wanted to like this book. I had read a comment either here or somewhere else that the premise was boyfriends best friend and girlfriend falling in love, so I sort of expected this kind of forbidden love/relationship angst and maybe a bit of jealousy or something and thought okay that could be a really interesting read.

However, I can’t get past about page 50. It’s just written so poorly. I think I’ve tried to read something from this author before and had the same issue but that was years ago and thought I’d give it another go because she’s quite established, but nope, can’t do it. The writing/dialogue is just so unrealistic. I think there is a way to build up a romantic relationship between a girl and her boyfriend’s best friend in a way that feels somewhat organic but this just feels so forced so far. He’s insanely protective/caring of her after meeting her ONCE, so much so that he tells her boyfriend (his best friend) to promise him he’ll pay for her car repair bill since she can’t afford it. And the best friend doesn’t even question…youve just met this girl I’m seeing and you’re making ME promise to take care of HER car? why do you care so much?

The entire set up of their meeting, him covering for his best friend by driving her to the hospital wasn’t so bad, but then the author takes it too far by having him be so worried about her from the get go, taking her to a cafe after the hospital and doing that stupid trope of ”you need to eat” which comes up so much in romance books and I hate it. Oh poor little FMC needs to eat and big strong MMC will ensure she’s fed. Again, it’s too much too early, she’s just a girl who his best friend is seeing, not even dating officially yet, he should have just gone the f home after dropping her and her mom at the hospital, maybe left his number and said text me if you need anything or need a ride home. Him deciding to stay so she’s not alone and then further taking her to eat was just too much, and an obvious overstep of boundaries considering your best friend is talking to this girl and claims to really like her. Do what is asked of you and go home. The author should have had more organic build up of his protectiveness and more organic scenarios that led them to developing feelings. Maybe after the hospital she texts to say thank you, and then later on during some sort of group hangout they unexpectedly get to spend some time talking alone, and then text each other again as a follow up to something they spoke about “here’s that song I was talking about” something like that, which ends up being a longer text conversation that lasts into the next day and then they both start to feel like it may be inappropriate so they abruptly end the conversation, are awkward the next time they see each other in person, totally try to avoid alone time, and then MAYBE after that there can be a more protective moment that plays out, that “you need to eat“ bullshit or “im going to stay with you I’m not leaving you alone” type of scenario. Not the FIRST meeting. gosh I should just write. lol.

Overall, it’s the manufactured helplessness of the FMC and the boyfriends best friend feeling an unexplained desire to take care of her, total trope with no real build up.

Oh and not to critique MMC for doing too much too soon and let FMC off the hook. Ol‘ girl was no better. Why are you constantly talking about how broke you are and bringing it up in front of this guy who you know is pretty well off? “Oh I just sell soup on the side to make money hehe” like you don’t divulge that info to your boyfriends best friend who you don’t know too well, it’s awkward as fuck. He’s already given you a 5am ride to the hospital because you’re broke and now you keep talking about being broke like do you want charity or do you not? Also, when her boyfriend is recovering from wisdom tooth removal and she comes by and the best friend/MMC says something along the lines of ”I’m not sure he wants you to see him like this” referring to your drugged up boyfriend in the other room and she responds “you’d have to tackle me to stop me from going in there and seeing him” girl it was never that serious. who the fuck talks like that lmfao just say “lol it’s okay I’m gonna go see him anyway cause it’ll be funny” like why are you bringing up tackling it’s oddly sexual and forward to be saying to a friend of the guy you just started seeing over something as silly as seeing your boyfriend while he’s high on painkillers after tooth extraction.

I WANT to read more romance, I crave it, but why are even the established writers in this genre comparable to wattpad level amateurs? I often see AJ compared to EH and it’s not even close. So far EH is the only contemporary romance writer I’m into who strikes the perfect balance most of the time. Even EH is a bit too cheesy with the dialogue at times but I can cringe through it and appreciate the books as a whole. Abby has disappointed me twice now. Alternatively, while it’s not the typical romantic/rom com books that are discussed in this sub, I also love contemporary fiction with strong romantic subplots such as Sally Rooney. I recently read Talking At Night by Claire Daverely and it’s not rom com at all but rather gives me Sally Rooney vibes, romance but melancholy, and a bit angsty. Open to anything like that too.

I guess my biggest thing is, I want strong writing, organic dialogue, tropes are okay but make them feel real.

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u/Plenty_Cup_5152 — 7 days ago