u/Pooraf666

Hi all,

I bought this Lehenga and choli to wear to my friends wedding but when I talked to my other friends attending they said they are just wearing formal western dresses. The wedding is this weekend so I’m under a deadline but I have western formal options to wear so please give your opinion!

I included a picture of her dress code too.

So I have a few questions:

Is it odd to wear this as a white guest when western wear is welcome? I wanted to be respectful of her and her fiancés culture but I also don’t want to appropriate.
If I do wear it, is the outfit I bought formal enough? (It’s more sparkly in person but still, I feel like the dupatta doesn’t match as well as it should)

For context they are just doing a Baraat and ceremony then going straight to the reception so we are expected to just wear one formal outfit.

Please be honest I will not be offended! I have formal western dresses that would be appropriate!

(First time buyers here!) So we are under contract for a house and are 5k under asking ($390k home). We asked for under asking because the house was priced a bit high compared to comps given its age and visible condition. We had an inspection that found a bunch of little stuff and some big stuff. All the little stuff we are planning on doing ourselves like fixing the handrail in stairs, sealing driveway cracks, fixing sewer clean out, installing more smoke detectors, etc.

Here are the things we asked the seller for:
- roof is 20 years old and has hail damage (notably, the seller is older and estimated the roof was 7-8 years old so that’s what we were assuming going into the contract), inspection guy recommended we have the seller replace the roof with their insurance so we asked for that since insuring it in its current state is unlikely.

-Radon levels came back high so we are asking they install a radon mitigation system. I think the inspector estimated around $1k

-we had a fireplace inspection (we used the seller’s fireplace service company) and the inspection found cracks and significant damage that makes it unusable in its current state. They recommended installing a gas insert as that would be the cheapest fix so we had them give us a quote that came to around $6k so we are asking them for a credit for that amount so we can put in one we like not just the cheapest.
EDIT FOR CLARITY: the current fireplace is already a gas log system (not wood!) that uses the original chimney flu which is where the cracks are. We hired a separate liscenced fireplace inspector to give us the info and he’s been working with the sellers for years. He said the gas insert would be the cheapest option to make it usable because you would just line the current flu instead of needing to do a bunch of masonry work. The sellers disclosure said the fireplace worked.

- all the carpets are in bad condition and need to be replaced. Are they still functional? Technically yes but any reasonable person would want them fixed (major stains, wrinkles, pulling away from edges). This may be where we are being the most unreasonable though as we had a carpet company give us a quote to fix the carpets which would come to about $7k and we asked again for a credit so we could pick a carpet we like.

For context, the house had zero other offers and was on the market for 3 weeks before we put in our offer. Our area is leaning a bit towards a buyers market at the moment. Also the sellers disclosure was not accurate about the age of things and they did not know the fireplace had issues and thought the roof was much younger.

I know a lot of this is just waiting to see what they say, but what do you think of our asks? Is this reasonable? We love this house and are willing to negotiate. I just hope our asks won’t make them upset.

Is this okay as a non-Indian guest?