dated a girl with bpd, feeling guilty to say she abused me.
i know BPD isnt something that makes you a violent person, id never generalize. every time ive spoken about it, i get responses like; “you cant blame her! its obviously something you did!” simply when i mention her diagnosis.
i had my hair yanked, i was punched, slapped, held under water, and guilttripped when i spoke to her about it.
whenever she’d come over to my house, she’d go thru my personal things and harass me.
we dated five times, she broke up with me every single time.
now, shes randomly blocked me everywhere.
i feel like im making her seem like a bad person, but this is everything that happened.
i need some kind of reassurance. no matter what i do i always feel like im the abuser here, mainly because im a guy and shes a mentally ill girl.