u/PossibilityDirect972

Hello!

I am a 27F solo parent to a 6 month old baby boy. I am an American citizen in Texas. My son has my last name on his birth certificate, his father’s is not on there at all. His father’s name is not on any legal paperwork.

His dad is an Irish citizen (from Tipperary) and he is living in Australia (where we met). He wants absolutely nothing to do with his son. He won’t even look at photos of him.

I was able to find his family in Tipperary and reached out to his brother. His family also wants nothing to do with him.

Is there a way for my son to get Irish citizenship without having to grant his father any legal rights to him? I do not want his dad involved at all if that’s what he wishes. But I do believe my son will benefit from being a dual citizenship.

Any legal advice? Should I go to the Irish consulate?

***edit to add - seems I have ruffled a few feathers with my question. I am actually laughing at each comment that is insinuating my son has an awful mother / awful life.

I cannot control that his father is absent. He chose that.

I did not put him on the birth certificate because at that point he had not spoken to me in 5 months. I also almost died during delivery, was absolutely scared being on my own, and didn’t know the legality of this. My goodness, you people are ruthless. It was just a question.

***** Edit to add- thank you everyone, so much, for all of your help. It is nice reading through the comments and I am trying to make most of an unfortunate situation with the baby’s father. I love my son more than anything, and just want the best life for him. I am hoping this all works out in our favor. Also, for what it’s worth, I went to Ireland a few years ago on a trip with my friends, and we adored the country and the people. Thank you ☺️ ****

I am a 27F solo parent to a 6 month old boy. He is the single greatest thing I’ve done.

This story can get lengthy, so I will try and summarize as much as I can.

I met his dad in Australia (I’m from the states) while I was working and traveling there for a few months. Living my absolute best life. His dad is Irish, though he lives full time in Australia, and it was a quick fling in the ocean after we spent all day and night together. Realizing that was dumb, we stopped and just went to bed.

Well it seems that 5 minutes was a enough and fast forward a year later I have a beautiful little boy. I joke that he is my baby from the coral sea. Anyway, his dad and his family (in Ireland) want absolutely nothing to do with us. Of course I’m not surprised, but I’d be lying if I say it wasn’t the most devastating part of this. I just don’t understand why they wouldn’t want to se pictures of him at least.

My pregnancy was HARD mentally and emotionally. It was HARD going from being fiercely independent to relying on my family. I do have an exceptional village with a big family and friends. I am so grateful for them. They love my son as much as I do.

My delivery was HARD. I almost died I lost so much blood.
They had to operate on me for 2.5 hours after he was born.

Postpartum was HARD. I absolutely had to get on Lexapro. I missed my old life so, so much.

My question is - has anyone gone through something similar, and fell in love and still had more babies? I know there are single moms who still want more children, but I am so indifferent. I really believe having a present partner will make such a difference, but I feel I don’t even want to risk it? Maybe that is my trauma from the whole experience.

**edit to add - I do 100% all of his night wakes, and have since January. He is a pretty great sleeper, and he has a great temperament. Sometimes I feel like I am just sleep deprived, and that’s why I feel so certain on the tubal litigation procedure.