u/Potential_Mood_6939

Hello I'm wanting to ask from other egaged/married couples on this. My friendship group we have been/will be eachothers bridesmaids. Known eachother since we where little so we have no shame voicing our opinions. When my friend lets call her Emma got married we paid for our BM dresses. Emma paid for makeup,hair. I was okay with it cause weddings are not cheap. Now its my tern to get married and my friend lets call her Pheobe. Keeps saying 'we should not have to pay for our dresses'

I know some may ask brides to pay for dresses to save o. Buget and off course my freinds will have the final say. If I ask them to pay they get to choose

If you asked your brides to pay for their dresses how did you go about it and where they upset?

To provide more contenxt for emmas wedding I chewed through savings for her bacherlotte/hotel stays and brides maid dress. (I would do it all over again in a heart beat she is like a sister to me and i only get to do that once and so glad i did. I earnt that money back ans bad a blast)

Me: 28 female. Partner 26 male.
For context we still attend important events like my bf sisters birthday, his mum’s birthday extra and every time these events happen he attempts to talk to his son. Most recently we where at a concert (my partners sister in a band) and it was there final concert so naturally we went to support her. My partners dad kept coming up to us. Trying to talk to us an we eventually had to get security involved becouse he would not leave us alone. He would get in our faces, say not so nice things to us mind you the entire family is there to see.

We told him we have a no contact. End of night we get texts saying we are to blame we have led him on. I’m always to blame. He leaves us alone till the next event. He rights a personal letter. I’m to blame as to why he has no relationship with his son. My BF decided not to respond to the letter but ignore it cause it’s another manipulation tactic.

Now the rest of the family have not reached out like they normally would. Not even his sister. His dad is very manipulated and controlling. Is this normal? My BF sister is very naive and doesn’t ec knowledge her dad is toxic and manipulative. She actually thinks he’s done nothing wrong.

I want to reach out to his sister to tell her not to make the mistake of cutting her brother off becouse off our decision to cut her father off for our mental health.

My bf shouldn’t have to lose his sister or mother becouse he made a decision best for him.