u/PowerPlayParadox

I was ghosted out of the blue by someone I considered a really close friend after years of friendship. It’s been five months now and I’ve made a lot of progress, but I still wonder whether they’ll stay gone forever or randomly pop back up one day.

For anyone who’s been ghosted - did they ever come back? And if they didn’t, how long did it take you to stop waiting for it or wondering?

Genuinely curious about how likely it is for ghosts to show up to haunt you after ghosting you? Or did your ghost stay gone forever?

For those who heard back from the person who ghosted you - how long had it been and what did you do?

For those who never heard from them again - how are you doing now? It's hard getting closure from a ghost (trust me, I know).

For context - I got ghosted out of the blue by someone I considered a really close friend (talking years of friendship here). That was five months ago now and I have come a loooong way in terms of acceptance and understanding (they definitely have avoidant attachment) but I do wonder if they will stay gone or pop up randomly one day. Only time will tell so in the meantime, figured I'd ask what other people's experiences are / were.

Got ghosted by who I thought was a ride or die friend. Really cared about them, were friends for over two years and then the slow fade happened and ultimately I got ghosted.

I have since figured out that they definitely have an avoidant attachment style (honestly I think this explains why a lot of people ghost) but obviously understanding why does not change the impact of how much being ghosted sucks.

To try cut a long story short - I've accepted that I probably won't hear from them again and I try remind myself of why would I want a friend like that who wakes up everyday and decides to not reach out / leaves me with no closure.

The question is: how long did you wait to cut off all ties? I've already unfollowed them on Instagram (they still follow me) but they have a profile on my Spotify and I know I should delete it but it's been three months of no contact and I'm debating with myself if three months is too soon? Should I wait longer or just delete their profile and try move on / forget about them entirely.