u/Practical_Hat4172

Hello! This might be a bit of an off-topic post.

I have been a lifelong Arsenal fan, and those who follow soccer would understand what a big deal this is after finally winning the Premier League. Still honestly feels unreal. I have not slept last night!

I am comparatively new to the US, having been living here for around 2 years now. I stay in Baton Rouge, but recently realized there is apparently a supporters group called the "Krewe of Arsenal" based in New Orleans.

Just coming to the point: if any fellow Gooner from NOLA or Louisiana in general is reading this post, how do I reach out to the supportes group in NOLA? Their website is not very informative, so I was wondering if the supporters in this state are having a gathering in some capacity. Are there any plans to meet up and celebrate, maybe after the UCL Final in Budapest?

Would genuinely love to connect with fellow Arsenal fans here in Louisiana. It is such a big deal that it is not fair to celebrate alone!

Thanks in advance for your help!

#COYG

I (33M) matched with a 36F on a dating app this January. She has a kid and seemed mature, so I assumed that no matter how things turned out, we would at least treat each other with respect.

Our first date was in late January. I do not drive, so she came to my city, picked me up, and we went to another nearby city with a lot going on. The date was honestly magical. We sat by the river, held hands while walking, kissed, had dinner, and she drove me back to my apartment, which is about an hour away. It was late, so I offered her to stay over, and she agreed. We made out that night.

After that, things were consistently good. We met around six to seven times over four months. Sometimes she stayed over on weekends, sometimes we went back to that city to explore. She even booked tickets for a cabaret show. It was vulgar as hell but also fun, and I got to experience a lot of new things in a country I am still relatively new to. Every time we met, it felt easy and good. She had a warm, comforting presence. It felt like she liked and respected me a lot, and I did too.

Last Sunday she came over again. We went out for lunch, came back, and she mentioned she had a headache, her period might be starting, and she had heartburn. I did not push for sex at all. I told her we could just relax or do something non-penetrative if she felt like it, or just cuddle. We were watching movies. Around 8 PM, she stepped out to the balcony to smoke. Then she came back in, voice a bit shaky, and said she had to leave because her son was asking her to come home right away.

I helped her pack, and she left within five minutes. We kissed goodbye.

It has now been four days. I have tried calling, texting, and reaching out on social media. Nothing. Complete silence.

So I am assuming I got ghosted.

It just feels surreal because it came out of nowhere after four months of what felt like a steady, genuine connection. I am not devastated, but I am definitely shocked and hurt. I know I treated her with respect and kindness. She told me that herself multiple times. So the lack of basic respect to at least say she does not want to continue is hard to process.

I will not reach out again. It is what it is. You cannot change people. I think I will be fine in a few weeks, but yeah, this one stings a bit. Just hoping it does not mess with my ability to trust going forward. Thought I would share my story here in this sub.