u/Prestigious-Gur7075

I’ve been trying to quit nic for awhile, I quit while pregnant using nicotine gum for like a week, but honestly it made my morning sickness so much worse which I think helped the quitting process. I’m disappointed in myself for starting again, I’ve tried quitting a few times cold turkey but I can’t handle the anger, I have no help with my kid right now due to my husband being away from home due to the military. I tried Wellbutrin but had a bad reaction to it and was only able to take it for 3 days. I don’t know what to do anymore, quitting breastfeeding is not much of an option right now.
I’m just not sure what to do at this point, I’m desperate to quit

I got prescribed trazodone in oct of last year, I was having nightmares and was having trouble sleeping. I never took it due to breastfeeding and it shows the prescription ended a month later. I was having the nightmares due to postpartum hormones and no longer have them. I don’t really remember getting the prescription in the first place and got a paper saying it was for sleep issues and not depression but I’m not sure how it’ll go MEPS wise.

Is there a way to see my past diagnosis before going to meps and them seeing it on genesis? I’d like to try and get waivers before going if that’s even possible but I’m unsure what all I’d need waivers for (I know I’ll need some for sure) and discuss with her the likelihood of being approved.

I want to join the military, but I’d need some waivers, my husband just finished basic for the Air Force and I’d really like us to be in the same branch due to us having a kid.
Waivers I think I’d need:

1. Hand tattoo- I have a butterfly on the back of my hand and two on my ring finger same hand.
2. ADHD- diagnosed in 8th grade, haven’t taken medication in 6+ years
3. Mental hospital stay 6 & 8 years ago due to suicidal ideas, I was being abused at home and it was the only way for me to get any help, I haven’t taken medication for it for years, though I did do counseling until the end of 2023 and a little at the end of 2024, but I didn’t really need it just was a little worried about postpartum depression which I didn’t get.
4. Heart murmur- had one at 12 I think, they did a test and I was fine, I no longer have one
5. I have glasses, unsure if I need a waiver for that, I have astigmatism and my vision is I think -3/ -3.5

How likely is it I could get accepted with these if the waivers did get passed, is it too much? I know the mental health issue is a big one, I hate that abuse can affect my chances at this.

I just read that we’re slowly supposed to up our dose, I was prescribed 150mg 2x daily and he said to take one in the morning and one before bed. This is to help me stop smoking and to help with my adhd/anxiety. I’m a bit worried now that I should’ve waited to start taking two pills a day, I just took the second one and I already have a lot of anxiety taking new meds so I’m kind of freaking out lol.

21, F, 5’9, 120lbs
I got a gym membership at home after doing a simple workout at home for a few weeks.
Squats 10x3
Crunches 10x3
Push ups 10x3 (using knees)
Plank 30 seconds
chair squat things 10x3
Every other day

I used to workout about 3yrs ago and liked my routine but I don’t have it saved and can’t remember it, it was lower body mostly anyways. I am working on gaining weight and eating healthier and all that but I’m not sure how to make a workout routine. I can go to the gym 4x a week, my only problem is I’m extremely weak right now and it’s making it hard to make a routine when every beginner friendly workout is too much for me. I’m basically pushing to failure for all of them before even finishing the sets. I’m using first weight for bars too so it’s not like I can make them any less. My goal is to gain muscle everywhere right now while gaining weight.

I have a polyp down there that appeared about 6m after I had my kid, I got it checked out and she said it was fine and told me getting it removed is more of a cosmetic so to just wait until I have my second kid. It was already pretty big when she checked it out, I mean it was at the entrance of my vagina. I’m pretty sure it’s getting bigger though, it’s become a huge discomfort and as someone who already had pain during sex it is not helping. When I wipe after going #2 I worry about it like a tampon string bc it’s so long. Putting a tampon in is now uncomfortable, and I can always feel it. Not to mention I’m extremely embarrassed of it in general, I don’t let my husband do stuff bc of it. I don’t plan to try for another baby for another yr, so it’s just going to continue to grow. Having a baby definitely hurt my self image a lot and I’ve been working on myself for awhile now to get in a better headspace about how I look now, but this is something I can’t fix on my own and I know she isn’t going to remove it. I don’t know if I should see another doctor, but I can’t keep this thing with me. I also thought she’d want to remove it knowing that my mother had cervical cancer and these can become cancerous. (My baby is now 20m)

21, 5’9/10, 100lbs, Female. I’ve always been skinny, in highschool I stayed around 120lbs. I had a baby a year and a half ago and still breastfeed at night. I eat all the time, 3 meals a day + snacks, I’ve always ate a ton and for the most part I try to eat healthy. I’ve started working out a little at home and drinking protein shakes, but I also did that my senior year of highschool and it didn’t do much, it turned my very little fat into muscle but I never really gained anything extra. I’m tired all the time, I can barely do any activity, and I struggle to hold my own kid or be active with him. I realized after I had my kid that alot of this is caused by how skinny I am. I have stomach issues, I have to take MiraLAX daily, doctors tell me to just eat more but I’m practically eating every second of the day. Lots of yogurt and fried rice, beef, fruits and veggies, oatmeal too. I don’t like chicken, nuts, white rice or peanut butter. Also a lot of not healthy foods here and there too, I have a pretty bad sweet tooth 😅. I started a multivitamin today because I probably need it and I’m trying to drink more water. I did creatine in highschool but wasn’t sure if that would help me and just took it because others did. I can make my own calorie/protein shakes but wasn’t sure what’s best and I’m so picky, everything I see has peanut butter and nuts in it and I cannot stomach those. I do like pb & j sandwiches and try to eat 2 a day to get some peanut butter in my diet but not sure if that helps much.

My Husband is at BMT, his grandma isn’t doing so well and we don’t think she’ll make it much longer. I’m going to call Red Cross but I had a few questions.
I read they don’t allow leave for grandparents, is that true?
Will they allow him to call and talk to family and say his goodbyes over the phone? If so how long will he be allowed to talk to family?
How quick will they get the message to him?

Wanted to say we had talked about this possibility before hand, she has been in a nursing home for a bit and he said he’d want to know.

Just updating for people in the future.
Update 1:
I called Red Cross at 1:11 pm and got an email at 2:51 pm saying it was verified and that they were sending it over.
The info they wanted was his first and last name plus dob, his rank, TRS/flt, where he was staying at and what part of the military he was in. My first and last name, phone number and email. The phone number and name of the person over the medical care of his grandma. The hospital she was at and her first and last name + dob and they did ask for room number but I didn’t have it. Plus what was going on with her and they recommended I call the hospital to give them a heads up they were calling.

Update 2:
He called at 3:51pm, sadly he only got 11 minutes but I got to let him know everything going on and he had me relay a message to his family and grandma. We expected him to have more time to talk to his family, but at least he knows and isn’t caught off guard when she does pass.

Me and my husband are both 21, on June 9th he left for basic to join the Air Force. We’ve been together for 4 yrs and got married on Jan 1st, we also have a 1 yr old. I know we’re young but we’ve been doing well. He would randomly go to the gym after work but since he was going to go to basic I didn’t think much of it, I did get a weird suspicion but brushed it off. We can’t communicate much right now, I send him letters but it takes a minimum of 10days for him to receive them, I’m supposed to get a 15m call from him next week.

Anyways I got a message from a girl who worked at the same place as him today, she said they slept together, she gave me dates and the dates match up with the days he said he would be going to the gym. 2-3x he slept with this girl, I even questioned him about how it was weird he’d spend 2-3 hrs at the gym and then stop going and he brushed it off, said his coworkers he got off with played basketball with him. Turns out she was playing basketball with him. She said it didn’t mean anything, she also said she didn’t know about me but ik that’s a lie because his entire Facebook/ insta is us and our kid.

We’ve had a few months that were rough but I thought we were fine, idk what to do. I believe on working through it not just for us but for our kid but I’m so hurt. I can’t even talk to him about it either. We haven’t been having sex much, my confidence has been terrible so my sex drive went down with it, but I would at least try to do it 1-2x a month and he seemed okay with that.

When he gets out of basic we’ll talk it through but I don’t even know what to do anymore, I’ve been struggling so much without him already and now this. Why would he do this to me.

I feel I should mention that I’m not leaving him so don’t tell me to. Yea what he did was messed up but I know he had a lot going on when it happened and I know he loves me and our family.

Update:

1. A lot of yall are saying just leave, this is the first time it’s happened ever in the 4 yrs we’ve been together. I want to try marriage counseling and working through it for our son and our family. No I’m not letting him off easy, there will be a lot of communication work, and repercussions for this. Things won’t be going back to normal but I believe we should work through it before ending it.

2. A lot are asking if there’s any images or anything, she didn’t send me any but the dates she gave me (2 separate dates last month) are the only days he went to work out and on one of them he went to an apartment afterwards to “play d&d with his friends”. The gym is connected to his old job so him running into friends there wasn’t crazy to me. She gave me some personal details that only I should know as well.

3. I sent him a letter about it, he calls next week, idk if the letter will get there before he can call but we’ll be talking about it on the phone, but it also won’t be the entire conversation. He needs updates about our family, I just lost my job, he supports us right now, he also deserves updates about our son.