u/Prestigious-Gur7075

21, 5’9/10, 100lbs, Female. I’ve always been skinny, in highschool I stayed around 120lbs. I had a baby a year and a half ago and still breastfeed at night. I eat all the time, 3 meals a day + snacks, I’ve always ate a ton and for the most part I try to eat healthy. I’ve started working out a little at home and drinking protein shakes, but I also did that my senior year of highschool and it didn’t do much, it turned my very little fat into muscle but I never really gained anything extra. I’m tired all the time, I can barely do any activity, and I struggle to hold my own kid or be active with him. I realized after I had my kid that alot of this is caused by how skinny I am. I have stomach issues, I have to take MiraLAX daily, doctors tell me to just eat more but I’m practically eating every second of the day. Lots of yogurt and fried rice, beef, fruits and veggies, oatmeal too. I don’t like chicken, nuts, white rice or peanut butter. Also a lot of not healthy foods here and there too, I have a pretty bad sweet tooth 😅. I started a multivitamin today because I probably need it and I’m trying to drink more water. I did creatine in highschool but wasn’t sure if that would help me and just took it because others did. I can make my own calorie/protein shakes but wasn’t sure what’s best and I’m so picky, everything I see has peanut butter and nuts in it and I cannot stomach those. I do like pb & j sandwiches and try to eat 2 a day to get some peanut butter in my diet but not sure if that helps much.

My Husband is at BMT, his grandma isn’t doing so well and we don’t think she’ll make it much longer. I’m going to call Red Cross but I had a few questions.
I read they don’t allow leave for grandparents, is that true?
Will they allow him to call and talk to family and say his goodbyes over the phone? If so how long will he be allowed to talk to family?
How quick will they get the message to him?

Wanted to say we had talked about this possibility before hand, she has been in a nursing home for a bit and he said he’d want to know.

Just updating for people in the future.
Update 1:
I called Red Cross at 1:11 pm and got an email at 2:51 pm saying it was verified and that they were sending it over.
The info they wanted was his first and last name plus dob, his rank, TRS/flt, where he was staying at and what part of the military he was in. My first and last name, phone number and email. The phone number and name of the person over the medical care of his grandma. The hospital she was at and her first and last name + dob and they did ask for room number but I didn’t have it. Plus what was going on with her and they recommended I call the hospital to give them a heads up they were calling.

Update 2:
He called at 3:51pm, sadly he only got 11 minutes but I got to let him know everything going on and he had me relay a message to his family and grandma. We expected him to have more time to talk to his family, but at least he knows and isn’t caught off guard when she does pass.

Me and my husband are both 21, on June 9th he left for basic to join the Air Force. We’ve been together for 4 yrs and got married on Jan 1st, we also have a 1 yr old. I know we’re young but we’ve been doing well. He would randomly go to the gym after work but since he was going to go to basic I didn’t think much of it, I did get a weird suspicion but brushed it off. We can’t communicate much right now, I send him letters but it takes a minimum of 10days for him to receive them, I’m supposed to get a 15m call from him next week.

Anyways I got a message from a girl who worked at the same place as him today, she said they slept together, she gave me dates and the dates match up with the days he said he would be going to the gym. 2-3x he slept with this girl, I even questioned him about how it was weird he’d spend 2-3 hrs at the gym and then stop going and he brushed it off, said his coworkers he got off with played basketball with him. Turns out she was playing basketball with him. She said it didn’t mean anything, she also said she didn’t know about me but ik that’s a lie because his entire Facebook/ insta is us and our kid.

We’ve had a few months that were rough but I thought we were fine, idk what to do. I believe on working through it not just for us but for our kid but I’m so hurt. I can’t even talk to him about it either. We haven’t been having sex much, my confidence has been terrible so my sex drive went down with it, but I would at least try to do it 1-2x a month and he seemed okay with that.

When he gets out of basic we’ll talk it through but I don’t even know what to do anymore, I’ve been struggling so much without him already and now this. Why would he do this to me.

I feel I should mention that I’m not leaving him so don’t tell me to. Yea what he did was messed up but I know he had a lot going on when it happened and I know he loves me and our family.

Update:

1. A lot of yall are saying just leave, this is the first time it’s happened ever in the 4 yrs we’ve been together. I want to try marriage counseling and working through it for our son and our family. No I’m not letting him off easy, there will be a lot of communication work, and repercussions for this. Things won’t be going back to normal but I believe we should work through it before ending it.

2. A lot are asking if there’s any images or anything, she didn’t send me any but the dates she gave me (2 separate dates last month) are the only days he went to work out and on one of them he went to an apartment afterwards to “play d&d with his friends”. The gym is connected to his old job so him running into friends there wasn’t crazy to me. She gave me some personal details that only I should know as well.

3. I sent him a letter about it, he calls next week, idk if the letter will get there before he can call but we’ll be talking about it on the phone, but it also won’t be the entire conversation. He needs updates about our family, I just lost my job, he supports us right now, he also deserves updates about our son.