Wanting to talk...
Currently I am dealing with my husband's BM coming at us saying that I am trying to replace her. It has been over a year since she has done this last but has now come back into play. This started as she saw mother's day items hung on his wall where all of his artwork is hung up in his room. We were told by the school that she had gotten things and she had sent us a picture of a card as well. Therefore we thought she had gotten items as we got these when we picked him up after the week she had him. Custody is 50/50.
I understand her not wanting myself to be referred to as mom but we tell the school and others that they should refer to me as my name to him and that is how he would refer to me as well. She does not see or believe this. I have not once posted or talked bad about her nor have I created posts stating I am his mom and not even made a post that is solely about him. My husband will tag me in posts he makes of the kids but also does not refer to me as mom, the most he has done is SM.
I really just want to talk and get my feelings out there. Not necessarily to her and I know if I share too much it does bother my husband. I understand it can bother him as she goes at him way too hard sometimes and he can find it as an insult as he did choose to be with her at one point. He can sometimes take it as a personal attack if I go too much into things. I just don't know how to feel sometimes. I take off work to be at his school events, to take him to doctors appointments when they can't, stay home with him when he isn't well and they cannot. I don't do everything and I only step in when both are busy and that's rarely but I do what I can to be there for all of them. It takes a village and I do that for all 3 SKs.