Am I poly under duress ?
I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months and only recently we defined our relationship. Since I know her she told me about wanting to try non monogamous relationship and so it's been months I've been thinking about it.
Since the beginning we realized that I lean more towards open relationships while she may need full poliamory.
Few weeks ago we were planning on setting up a menu and define our relationship, the problem is that the day before this she told me that she met a guy and wanted to know him better.
This felt rushed and was hard to process for me but I did! We did the menu together and I felt okay.
This week she went out with him and I did not felt too bad until yesterday.
We were planning on doing a relationship check today but yesterday while we were out with friends she spoke about "her new friend" (not like this is my partner but rather this is my new super interesting friend)
What happened next is that I felt like shit, I feel like this whole thing is rushed and I don't know if I'm okay with it.
I want to try non monogamy slow but I feel like she is going too fast.
Am I poly under duress ?