Is this abuse?
Hey guys, throwaway account for safety reasons.
I am wondering if what I have been experiencing is abuse.
For starters, I am a SAHM with no access to my husband's bank account. When I brought this issue up, I was told that he didn't want to wake up one day and his bank account is drained to zero and I've moved across the country with my kid. I've never threatened this, but I had expressed that I didn't know the state of our marriage a few months prior. Nothing's changed. All of our accounts are separate and I currently don't have an income. He pays for the bills and any groceries, etc. but I don't know what's in his account or what comes in and out.
Furthermore, I have a mental illness that he has used to try and have me question my memories of different arguments we've had. He claims that's not his intent, but I would argue that "are you sure that happened? You have (blank) mental illness so..." is an attempt at having me question my own memory.
I have tons of familial support back home, but we moved across the country to be closer to his family a few years back and I view it as an attempt to isolate me. We made this move shortly after a mental health crisis and moved only two weeks after I came out of the psych hospital.
My therapist brought up emotional abuse in one of our sessions and over the next few months I felt like that's what I was experiencing but I am just not sure. I want out of this marriage, and am just looking for some support/assurance that I'm not crazy.