Wedding blusters
My sister, let’s call her Shannon, is getting married this weekend. Back story, my sister had her wedding scheduled for the end of September. I am the mother of the bride, father of the bride and maid of honor. They sent out save the dates in February. I made a spreadsheet of to dos, budget, etc so they could started on planning. We are in the month of May and not one thing has been done. My sister doesn’t want to pick out a dress until 3 weeks before hand which leaves me waiting as well as my daughter that’s the flower girl. We have no clue what kind of dress my sister is getting so we have to wait.
Well I suggested to her last week they should just elope. That’s what they ultimately decided since neither one of them has done anything to plan. I have one week to prepare to drive 6 hours to be there. I’m fine with that but my husband is only home on the weekends and travels for work. So that means we only have Saturday as the day to be there. We will be driving 12 hours round trip, shopping for my sisters dress as soon as I get there, having the wedding and then going out to dinner.
My sister informed me that her new MIL only wants to go to a restaurant she is comfortable with. So I suggested to my sister that I pay for the dinner for the entire party which is only 9 people. That way she can choose where she would like to go. The wedding is at 5:00 pm and it’s on Memorial Day weekend. Seattle area has limited reservations available for a party of 9 so I told her that we may have to do later like 8:00 pm. She came back and told me that her FIL has a poop schedule because he drives trucks and that won’t work for him. He has to eat between 6-6:30 otherwise his pooping schedule will be off for Sunday. I told her I don’t give a damn about someone’s poop schedule and if they want to be there, they will. However since he’s officiating the wedding, she wants to make sure he will go to dinner. I in the meantime, cannot find anywhere decent that has a reservation open. So I told her that people need to just figure it out.
Well she got pissed and said it’s not that big of a deal and I need to be flexible and just wing it. I told her that I’m driving up just for the day and will only be there for 10 hours. I can’t stand around and wait for everyone to decide where to go to eat and I’m not paying for a place that my sister doesn’t even want to go to. Then she proceeds to tell me that her kids (teenagers) can’t stay up that late for dinner on a Saturday and that will stress her out. So at this point it feels like my sister is just making excuses so I tell her she can figure out the dinner part, we will be there for the wedding but will be leaving soon after to head back home with our 6 hour drive. She tells me that will just piss her off and I’m being a martyr. I feel like she expecting a lot from me at the last minute and I don’t have the mental capacity to deal with it. Does she not realize that this takes away a whole weekend with my husband, costing us about $1500 and doing this with a 6 day notice???? I’m also disabled and have not been on a road trip for over 3 years. I feel like I’m stretching myself thin for a disaster. Am I crazy to be upset over this and not want to go?