r/weddings

So ito na nga. Matagal na kaming live-in ng soon to be husband ko. Ulilang lubos na siya, 3 silang magkakapatid at siya ang bunso. Sa tagal naming nagsama finally magpapakasal na kami pero gusto namin pareho na intimate lang/parang kung sino lang nasabihan sila lang pupunta type. Inayos muna namin lahat ng papers hanggang sa may date na then 2 weeks before the civil wedding ceremony dun na namin balak sabihin sa parents ko and sa mga kapatid niya. Sinabi ko na sa parents ko and ok naman sa kanila, walang problema, supportado nila ang desisyon naming dalawa. Ito na!!!! Nung sinabi na niya sa mga kapatid niya nagalit sila kasi bakit daw hindi man lang kami nagsabi sa kanila na magpapakasal na kami, na kesyo ni ha or ho daw habang naglalakad ng papers eh wala which is dapat daw umpisa pa lang ng paglalakad ng papers eh sinabi na namin agad. Tapos sinabi ni future husband na sila lang yung aattend, At ayun na nga! Nagalit ang mga kapatid kasi bakit daw hindi man lang sabihan ang mga tita and tito's nila, ano na lang daw mararamdaman nila, ano na lang saw sasabihin nila na hindi sila sinabihan or inimbita. Bahala na daw kami basta hindi daw sila aattend hanggang hindi sinasabi ni soon to be H sa tita at tito nila. Bahala na din daw si soon to be H sa buhay niya kasi they're cutting him off pag hindi daw niya ipinaalam. Stress na ako malala sa sitwasyon nilang ganito...

My brother is getting married soon and I’m trying to choose something that feels thoughtful without being too much. I know cash or registry gifts are usually the safest option, but I also like the idea of giving something they can actually enjoy together after the wedding. Champagne or wine with something small alongside it feels like more of a moment than just another item for the house. At the same time, I don’t want it to seem too generic or like I didn’t think about it enough.

( Hi it’s my turn yay ) natural introduction

I actually brought something with me tonight as a little reminder for G. This is M’s childhood American Girl doll. And when we were kids, I got mad at her, cut the doll’s hair off, and ripped one of its legs off. So G… this is less of a prop and more of a warning. Because if you ever hurt my sister, just know… I’ve done this before, and I’m not afraid to do it again. No, but really — I think the fact that M still loves me after years of being her chaotic little sister says everything about who she is. She’s patient, loyal, forgiving, and loves people deeply and G, you are so lucky to get that kind of love for the rest of your life.

So growing up, I honestly thought I was the one who had life figured out first. I was super focused on being GREAT at everything- school, soccer, and always chasing the next big thing. I thought having good grades, a plan for my future, meant I was somehow “ahead” in life. Meanwhile, M was completely unbothered, always letting me have my main character moment. And honestly… for a while, I kind of put my nose in the air and thought I was better than her. Sorry, M. You’ve taught me that life doesn’t have to be loud or rushed to be meaningful. You’ve quietly built this beautiful life full of people who love you deeply, a beautiful home, and now a marriage rooted in genuine love and friendship.

People always say that sisters are your built it best friend and with M and I that is the truth. She’s always been my biggest cheerleader, the keeper of my secrets, and on the mornings when she decides to wake up and wear my clothes without asking (which was rare because she was always an XS while I’m rocking a L) my WWE smack down opponent. There are so many things that I love about M but mostly in every stage of life … from a spot at one of her friends family dinners to an invite to the tailgate …. My sister has been a constant source of inclusion and support. M always made sure I was never left out and that there was always room for me no matter where she went. That unwavering inclusion helped shape the bond that we have today and I couldn’t be more grateful for her presence in my life.

G, thank you for loving my sister so well, making her feel safe, supported, and allowing her to be completely herself. I knew you were a good person the night you and you rescued me in New Orleans after the Phi Delt I was with stole the money from a bartender’s tip jar… and then blacked out. Which left me with limited transportation options. G and his frat bros me escape on their fraternity bus, and somehow he’s only gotten better since then. And now, years later, I’m just very thankful my sister ended up with the guy who let me on the bus… and not the type of guy that robs bartenders.

M, you’ve been my first best friend for my entire life and I’ll always be homesick for you. G, I’m so happy she found someone who feels like home to her the same way she always has to me.

I love you both so much. Everyone please raise a glass to M and G

Hi all. So my husband and I just got married in February, and since then, due to life circumstances, we plunged right into house hunting. (We wanted to have our own place and were sick of our roommate.) We got a house and have started moving in, but the stress of it all has made me feel like I barely even remember the wedding (and no I didn't drink.) I am worried we moved too fast and basically "deleted" the giddy happiness you're supposed to feel after a wedding. Has anyone else felt like this? Do you think the wedding happiness will come flooding back once we're settled in? Or did we ruin the honeymoon period?

Instead of a traditional guest book, we are thinking to have cards/postcards out for guests to write us a little note, and I want to have designated envelopes or places for them to be put into to open on each anniversary.
I am having trouble bringing my vision to life logistically, has anyone done anything similar or have any ideas? Wondering if I should have a letter stand out with the envelopes with each year designated, and guests can put them in whichever.
I also have over 200 guests so I’m thinking to just have years 1-25 and just have multiple to open each year.
We really value handwritten notes and it would be very sentimental to open them over the years.

Any ideas or input would be appreciated!

One of my close friends just told me less than 20 days before my wedding that she’s not coming because she and her husband are temporarily relocating for the summer. They’ve been married for two years, it’s a temporary sublease, and her husband’s job doesn’t even start until the Monday after my wedding. She’s also known about my wedding long before they found this sublease.

My wedding also isn’t a destination wedding. It’s in her hometown.

I think what’s making me the most sad is that she had a destination bachelorette party and wedding without even really questioning it. My fiancé and I are literally delaying our own permanent move by a few days just to go to a wedding for someone we aren’t even that close with because we felt like that’s just what you do for people.

Apparently a bunch of our mutual friends already knew she wasn’t coming before she told me too, which honestly made it hurt worse.

I genuinely can’t tell if I’m just emotional because it’s my wedding or if this is actually a really hurtful thing for a close friend to do. I know nobody technically owes you attendance at your wedding, but I can’t help feeling like I would have done anything to be there for hers and she just didn’t feel the same way about mine.

We’re looking into doing some DIY decor (multiple signs, favors, florals, photo booth backdrop, etc.) to save money, but I’m stressed about the logistics of the breakdown. Our venue requires a hard stop at 10 PM and everything cleared by midnight.

Because we aren’t going to be local (2.5hrs from home for most people), everyone is staying in hotels or Airbnbs + Ubering, and I really don't want to burden our friends or family with manual labor after a night of drinking and dancing.

If you did DIY decor, who handled the late-night pack-up? In your experience, did your day-of coordinator handle this, or does it inevitably fall on friends, family, or the couple? How did you manage it?

We’re currently getting quotes for wedding liability insurance and I’m not sure what’s considered “normal” pricing. Our venue requires it but the more we plan the more we realize we’d probably want it either way. Curious what you all paid for yours and whether you felt it was worth having in the end? Would also love to know if there’s anything specific we should make sure is included in the policy.

I am 22 years old and am in college. I have no money but have been tasked with planning the bachelorette party for my sister. She doesn’t have high expectations per se but I know that she has an idea in her head about what she wants and I do not want to disappoint her. All of the girls joining us also have very low budgets and I cannot be sure that they will even pay their share of the cost, their is only five of us splitting the cost meaning that it will still be relatively expensive even though we are supposed to split the cost. We live in a town that does not have any activities that would be fit for the party she wants so we would need to leave town, therefore pay for sleeping accommodations - based on what I have seen this will cost at least (probably more) one hundred dollars each. My sister is also expecting an activity that we normally would not do on a random day. this makes it harder because we do random things throughout the year anyways so the options for a special activity are limited. I am hoping for some ideas of things/themes/activities we could do that won’t break the bank but will still be special for my sister.

Here is some information on my sister:

She does not drink or partake in recreational dr*g use

She is not artsy or crafty

She likes the outdoors - but is not an adrenaline junkie

she is having a very low key wedding - the reception is outside in a family friend’s back yar. They’ll be lawn games a pool etc - I doubt want the bach party to be too similar to this

She likes board games

She might be pregnant by the time the party takes place

Any help is very appreciated, thank you in advanced!

Hi all! I could really use some help or suggestions. My best friend is getting married on the beach and I have a large part in her wedding. One of my biggest sensory issues is sand on my feet and I don’t want to get in to a situation where I have a meltdown on a day that is all about her.
I thought about maybe some kind of scuba sock or similar that would allow me to feel “barefoot” and not have an actual shoe on but still give a good barrier that won’t let sand in. Does anyone have any suggestions?

My sister, let’s call her Shannon, is getting married this weekend. Back story, my sister had her wedding scheduled for the end of September. I am the mother of the bride, father of the bride and maid of honor. They sent out save the dates in February. I made a spreadsheet of to dos, budget, etc so they could started on planning. We are in the month of May and not one thing has been done. My sister doesn’t want to pick out a dress until 3 weeks before hand which leaves me waiting as well as my daughter that’s the flower girl. We have no clue what kind of dress my sister is getting so we have to wait.

Well I suggested to her last week they should just elope. That’s what they ultimately decided since neither one of them has done anything to plan. I have one week to prepare to drive 6 hours to be there. I’m fine with that but my husband is only home on the weekends and travels for work. So that means we only have Saturday as the day to be there. We will be driving 12 hours round trip, shopping for my sisters dress as soon as I get there, having the wedding and then going out to dinner.

My sister informed me that her new MIL only wants to go to a restaurant she is comfortable with. So I suggested to my sister that I pay for the dinner for the entire party which is only 9 people. That way she can choose where she would like to go. The wedding is at 5:00 pm and it’s on Memorial Day weekend. Seattle area has limited reservations available for a party of 9 so I told her that we may have to do later like 8:00 pm. She came back and told me that her FIL has a poop schedule because he drives trucks and that won’t work for him. He has to eat between 6-6:30 otherwise his pooping schedule will be off for Sunday. I told her I don’t give a damn about someone’s poop schedule and if they want to be there, they will. However since he’s officiating the wedding, she wants to make sure he will go to dinner. I in the meantime, cannot find anywhere decent that has a reservation open. So I told her that people need to just figure it out.

Well she got pissed and said it’s not that big of a deal and I need to be flexible and just wing it. I told her that I’m driving up just for the day and will only be there for 10 hours. I can’t stand around and wait for everyone to decide where to go to eat and I’m not paying for a place that my sister doesn’t even want to go to. Then she proceeds to tell me that her kids (teenagers) can’t stay up that late for dinner on a Saturday and that will stress her out. So at this point it feels like my sister is just making excuses so I tell her she can figure out the dinner part, we will be there for the wedding but will be leaving soon after to head back home with our 6 hour drive. She tells me that will just piss her off and I’m being a martyr. I feel like she expecting a lot from me at the last minute and I don’t have the mental capacity to deal with it. Does she not realize that this takes away a whole weekend with my husband, costing us about $1500 and doing this with a 6 day notice???? I’m also disabled and have not been on a road trip for over 3 years. I feel like I’m stretching myself thin for a disaster. Am I crazy to be upset over this and not want to go?

My wedding is four months out and cold outreach automation was supposed to help me stay consistent through the chaos but even setting that up has fallen apart between vendor negotiations and the seating chart situation my family has turned into a group project. I have been counting on landing two new clients before the honeymoon to cover what I spent on deposits, but the messages I do manage to send feel rushed and replies are sparse enough that I am genuinely unsure whether the problem is timing, copy, or just exhaustion. The pipeline has basically been on life support for six weeks. Has anyone managed to keep business development moving during a major life event without sacrificing the relationship side of the job entirely? And does anyone know of a solid sales automation software that could carry the follow up load so I am not losing ground every time the florist calls?

My fiance and I plan on getting married at the courthouse where we live very soon. Originally, we were leaning towards not doing any kind of reception or party and just doing an intimate dinner with immediate family the day/night after we go to the courthouse, the main reason being to save money.

But, we both work in the restaurant industry for the same company and they have offered to let us use the rooftop of one of their restaurants/bars if we would like to do something larger with family and friends. If we decide to use the space for a reception we would not be paying for people’s food and drinks and my question is do I need to clarify that on the invitations?

It feels a little like food & an open bar are expected at weddings/receptions now (which I think is a little crazy. Not for people to provide food & drinks for their guests if you can afford it, but that it’s an expectation from some). I would love to celebrate our marriage with friends and family but I just cannot get myself to spend $10k+ on a party when we want to buy a house in the next couple of years, I’m going to be needing a new car very soon and I do want us to be able to go on a trip/honeymoon.

Or am I wrong and it’s not expected and I don’t need to clarify that on the invitations? People would be able to order both food and drinks at the restaurant we would be doing it at, they would just be expected to pay for the own tab. We will most likely have a cake or some type of dessert for everyone.

It’s very possible that I’m overthinking all of this, which is not abnormal for me lol so just hoping to get some input.

I’m getting married next month, and I’m completely out of ideas when it comes to a morning gift for my future husband, so I’m hoping you can help with some inspiration.

My first thought was a watch, but I find it difficult to stay within a reasonable budget. He already has a “Pepsi” watch (not a Rolex though).

I also know he needs a belt for his suit, but if I tell him not to buy one himself, he’ll probably figure out why pretty quickly.

So now I’m considering putting together a more personal gift basket with small things that have meaning for the wedding day. For example:

- A watch – so he doesn’t lose track of time
- Socks – so he doesn’t get cold feet
- Gum – so he has fresh breath for all the kisses
- Hand sanitizer – for all the handshakes

Do you have any other fun or sweet ideas for small things I could include?

The day before the wedding is also Father’s Day, and I’ve already bought him a gift for that — it’ll be his very first Father’s Day ❤️

A little about him:
He’s a Liverpool fan, loves cars, plays a bit of PC gaming, and isn’t hugely into designer clothes — except for shoes, where Yeezys are preferred. In general, he’s the type of person who rarely buys anything for himself

Having a bit of a meltdown at costs now I’ve come to plan my own wedding. The places I dreamed of from socials are mostly unaffordable and it’s hitting quite hard.

I am torn between an immediate family wedding, or the 60 guest wedding I dreamed of. I could do a London Town hall/dinner for 10k or less. The venue I love for 60 however would probably come out about 20-25k all in.

I don’t know if it’s worth the sacrifice of scrimping and saving and not living my life for a couple years, for 1 day.

Advice welcomed on how you made your decision? And if you did the big day, do you have regrets?

***Modified to add parents contributions are about 12k. We already have a home and don’t want kids.

Hello kind people of reddit,

My fiance and I are planning to get married on September 19 of this year. We live in Williamsburg (Brooklyn) but found the perfect venue (Manhattan Penthouse) and put our deposit down last summer. Since then, we've been slowly chipping away at the long to-do list.

Unfortunately, yesterday we were contacted by our venue and told that they were going out of business and that they would refund our deposit. I started freaking out, and my fiance immediately started working on the issue. We have discussed cutting our losses and eloping. But we're not ready to give up on our wedding yet.

We have reached out to basically everyone we know, all our vendors, local business owners in Williamsburg, friends and family, but we're hoping for ideas from here too.

Our guest list is 150 people but obviously at this point we will cut that to take what we can get. Does anyone have any contacts or ideas or suggestions for venues that may be able to accommodate us on such short notice? We will take any leads we can get.

Thank you! And I hope this never happens to anyone else!

I had posted a while back when I got a save-the-date for a destination wedding. At that time I was working under the assumption that the wedding was $1k a night with a 3-night minimum. I thought that was a bit much.

The details have arrived...

It over 2k a night for my and my spouse with a minimum of 5 nights through the preferred travel service (so they get credit). That's not including flights, attire, or anything else. Sure the resort has super nice accommodations, and, if we were 40-years-younger, we would enjoy them.

A minimum of $12K to attend a wedding per couple?

Sorry folks, that's ridiculous.

Had our wedding 3 months ago and we still haven't seen photos from at least half our guests. Everything ended up scattered - 3 different WhatsApp groups, some people sent directly to my mom, some just never shared at all.

Our photographer covered the main moments but guests captured so many candid moments we'll never see now. Did anyone actually solve this problem? What worked?

Hi, I live in MCOL city in the south, and my wedding is next year. I have only met with one florist so far and she asked me my budget and I got nervous and said $6 for some reason. But then they quoted me exactly $6k. I’m honestly not sure if I’m being charged too much. I have another meeting with a different florist soon in 2 weeks but this current florist is pressing me kinda to sign the contract (very nice people). Attached is my “moodboard”.

100 people, 5 bridesmaids, about 14 table florals, sweetheart table florals, 2 big florals for ceremony, 2 for welcome sign/seating chart, 6 cocktail small florals, 2 florals for ground decor at reception. Overall a targeted $50k budget wedding if that helps?

Maybe I got a good deal?? lol idk I just don’t know how to get insight unless I speak with other florists but I’m impatient to wait another 2 weeks😭