Infantilization / “young parents” defense
I keep seeing defenders saying “they’re so young” as an excuse for the negligence and stupidity and it’s really started to rub me the wrong way. They’re almost 30 years old. I know they had kids at a younger age than many people do, but even still, they were in their early 20s when T1 was born, not 16. And tbqh, I’ve known better parents who did have a kid in high school or late teens, because they took the responsibility seriously, loved their child, and made the effort to learn about and provide basic safety. It’s insulting and infantilizing to be using that as a defense.
Also, let’s be so for real about the “young parents who didn’t know better” angle and call them what they are: ignorant and selfish. They’re not that young. People are lawyers and doctors by their age. E and B are sheltered, selfish and uneducated. Age has little to do with it.