u/Productively-Lazy

While I’m not a fan of the connotation surrounding colloquial “incels”. But I do wish that there public gatherings place for people like us. Having normal friends is good and all but especially around my age it seems like most of our conversations are dominated by relationships/girls despite my attempts to steer them back towards better topics(anime, gaming, etc..).

I feel like this would be very helpful for so many of us since it provide us with a real way to normalize perpetual romantic solitude. I feel like friends and family that find relationships unintentionally impact me by quietly making me feel odd and unusual.

Is this something that you all have thought too?

Hi everyone! I’m a long-time lurker but a first-time poster; as such, I offer our almighty mods my apologies in advance if I unintentionally violate any of the subreddit rules. Just for a bit of context, I (24M) stand at an imposing 5’7”; needless to say, I have never had any kind of romantic involvement in my life. After losing friends in my group one by one to partners who have successfully monopolized their disposable time and income, I have had a lot of time to think about my perpetual romantic solitude.

I’ve researched how to live a fulfilling life while being forever alone as a man. Most of the conversation seems to fall into two camps: traditional incels who accept their chances are marginal but endlessly vent about it, or extreme optimists who insist involuntary celibacy is unlikely and that most people are merely a shower, exercise, and therapy away from finding a partner.

I think the healthiest perspective for most men is to accept that romantic partnership may never happen while still making every effort to enjoy the rest of life. I find posts like this that capture this perfectly, but most discussions focus either on lamenting appearance or insisting everyone can find love with enough effort.

Rather than debating hypergamy or women’s preferences, I’d love for this post to discuss how we can build fulfilling lives while remaining single. I’ve found content creators who embody this philosophy: despite potentially being forever single, they’ve built lifestyles around enjoying life’s simple pleasures.

TLDR: Let’s give up on relationships and try to be happy anyway :)