u/Professional_Aerie67

Here we go with Analysis 4.

Much like his season, there’s nothing especially unique about Rick as a client archetype. In fact, that’s exactly what makes him recognizable.

He’s annoying, cocky, cheap, time-consuming, and deeply committed to the performance of being “the man” without actually wanting to invest anything meaningful into the experience.

Rick is the kind of guy who spends far more time talking about booking than actually booking. Endless questions. Endless negotiations. Endless attempts to figure out how to maximize the experience while minimizing what he has to spend emotionally, financially, or socially.

He needs reassurance before he commits to anything because he’s terrified of feeling conned, rejected, mediocre, or undesirable. Not because he lacks confidence on the surface, but because almost all of his confidence is performative. It’s built on fantasy, porn culture, male validation, and the idea that he is secretly exceptional sexually if only the “right woman” would unlock it. That’s why his questions are never really about logistics. They’re about ego protection.He wants guarantees. Guarantees of chemistry. Guarantees of enthusiasm. Guarantees that he will feel powerful, desired, unforgettable.

Rick is the type to have been spying on the sex work review forums since 2003 and has saved his favourite reviews. His user name is “Hardwood” and he’s set his location to “United Kingdom”, he’s got more than one account.

The first phone call is longer than an FBI interview. This archetype of John has to be convinced YOU ARE THE RIGHT ONE. 3 email addresses and multiple WIFI phone numbers later - it’s been months of back and forth and rescheduling.

When he does finally show up it’s with Gatorade, pineapple and a creepy smile because he can’t risk dehydration or lost time. Before the date begins he’s verified the starting time and is attempting to negotiate “MULTIPLE SHOTS ON GOAL” because he tastes great and can go 3times if you’ll just allow it. GROSS

He’s the guy who sits in the club multiple nights a week eating wings, watching women work, talking endlessly, and spending almost nothing. Every dancer has approached him at least once thinking maybe tonight will finally be the night he buys a dance, tips properly, or books VIP. Eventually everyone realizes he is a waste of time; he’s desperate for validation but terrified of rejection, obsessed with control while constantly chasing fantasy.

He’s too much work.
Not enough payout.
Every club has one.
Bad Date Lists are full of them.

The equivalent of a “bad lay” that won’t go away because you were in their top 3 - yet all you can remember is they couldn’t cover your cab home & there’s a social media history of “hi - we should hang out” with no response from you since the night u met.

So here it is: the type of client I think Big Ed would be. Analysis #3.

As much as I can’t stand Big Ed as a partner on 90 Day Fiancé, I actually think he’d be the kind of client sex workers talk about constantly. Not because he’s ideal morally, but because he’s predictable in a very specific way.

For all the reasons he makes a terrible boyfriend, he’d probably make a very profitable regular.

Big Ed strikes me as someone deeply invested in how he is perceived. He wants approval. He wants reassurance. He wants to feel desirable, interesting, chosen. Underneath the ego is someone terrified of aging, rejection, and becoming invisible. That’s why I don’t think he’d thrive in environments where the transaction is too obvious or public. A strip club only works if it allows him to perform status: buying drinks, name-dropping, talking about photography, celebrity access, or connections. But he’s not really there for the club itself. He’s there trying to create a bridge into something that feels more personal and validating.

He’s the kind of client who wants the illusion of intimacy as much as the intimacy itself.

He would likely approach slowly. Build rapport first. Offer gifts, favours, photoshoots, dinners, emotional check-ins. Not because he’s generous in a selfless way, but because he’s trying to reduce the emotional distance between “client” and “someone you might actually choose.” That distinction matters enormously to someone like him.

And honestly, that’s why this type of client can be both easy and exhausting.

On one hand, they are often polite, communicative, dependable with money, and highly motivated to keep you comfortable because they fear rejection. They remember details. They ask questions. They tip well. They want to be seen as “different from other men.”

On the other hand, there’s often a layer of manipulation underneath the performance of kindness. The emotional closeness becomes part of how boundaries get tested. Instead of openly negotiating desires upfront, they slowly build familiarity and trust so that when they eventually push a line, it feels harder to confront in the moment. Not always maliciously in a calculated way, but because they are deeply invested in avoiding shame, embarrassment, or hearing “no” directly.

That’s what makes this archetype interesting to me.

They don’t usually see themselves as exploitative. In fact, they often see themselves as unusually caring clients. But the need for validation becomes so central that they start engineering situations where their desires can exist without explicit negotiation. They want acceptance more than honesty.

And ironically, they often treat sex workers with more emotional attentiveness than they treat romantic partners, because with sex workers they understand the relationship requires effort, maintenance, generosity, and emotional labour. They know attention is not guaranteed. So they work for it.

This type of client becomes memorable because the relationship starts to blur categories: Fantasy,companionship, performance,transaction, & emotional dependency.

The challenge is that the emotional familiarity can create pressure to tolerate things you would otherwise shut down immediately with a stranger. That’s where the “easy regular” can quietly become complicated.

And honestly? That complexity is why workers talk about clients like this for years afterward.

Here is Analysis #2 (very similar “type” to analysis 1 of Gino)

As a JOHN Colt would short change you or slip in counterfeit, argue the length of song/time or push for extra service, extra attention and see himself as different from the type of guys that pay sex workers. (LOL)

Colt would play the part of “I never do this” “it’s my first time” “I’m scarred from my last relationship” really playing into the innocent nerd or nice guy persona while trying to push boundaries like a highschool boy with no concept of consent.

COLT is what I think of when I remember guys saying things like “FINISH WHAT YOU STARTED” “ITS NOT FAIR IF YOU DONT HELP ME OUT” - you know that BLUE BALL GUILT. It’s your fault I’m so turned on… unfortunately too many of us ran into that guy… the one that calls you a cocktease and tries dry humping you while you sleep - COLT IS HIM but in JOHN form he thinks your boundaries are suggestion that can be ignore or negotiated.

He’s the guy posting a bad review calling you a catfish on escort forums or complaining to the strip club on his way out because you shattered his delusions of you wanting him and him being your FAVOURITE.

I could see Colt being a slip the condom off in Doggy style type of dude, or break the rules around touching in VIP… I think Colt is more a low self esteem type guy sadly that makes him seem less dangerous than other guys but he’s vindictive and mean ESPECIALLY if he can do it in a way where you can’t hold him accountable or prove it’s him.

He’d be sexually aggressive but he’s not into hurting you to get sex atleast not in the violent attack way he’s going to try to take advantage of you and discredit you bc he’s a “nice guy”

Colt exists in the delusion he’s better than your other clients, he thinks he’s desirable either bc he’s good in bed or knows how to make you feel desired. He is so confident that he cracks jokes that he should get a discount or you should pay him.

Colt thinks Sex work is about sex for both the sex worker and the John. His ego is tied to his ability to get women and have sex. He’s competitive - and wants women out of his league, there’s a formula: the hotter they are or harder to get the more rewarding and he’ll put more effort in … women in his league need to be submissive to his wants and needs (I feel he’d be a risk for physical, emotional and financial abuse)

He is the type to resent paying bc he’s showed up thinking the parameters of the transaction will change once you experience your time with him.

Colt is the reason veteran girls school newbies to CASH UPFRONT & DON’T NEGOTIATE YOUR RATES OR BOUNDARIES EVER.

Gino has gotten under my skin for a long time and I couldn’t quite put my finger on it until I dove deep into the comments on another thread

Anytime there’s someone on a reality show thats involved either as a consumer or provider of adult (SW) services they tend to remind me of my time working as a Sex Worker (There’s definitely “types” of John’s just like there’s “types” of Service Providers)

Here’s a review of the “type” GINO falls into (other sex workers or sex work consumers please weigh in)

Gino is a low budget SUGAR DADDY/John that wants to feel important but not so important that there’s expectations of him aside of $ exchanged for fantasy. He wants to pretend to play saviour and Mr big bucks but wants you to work for it while having no expectations of him despite it being his fantasy that he could actually do it if he wanted to (but won’t bc he’s always going to feel you’re not worth the fee/rate unless he breaches your boundaries) He wants to pay an hourly rate or fee so he controls the interaction and knows the cost value reward of it all.

This is man in perverts row that makes your money a pain in the ass to receive. It’s crumbled, dirty, ripped, or thrown into the corner of the stage making you have to walk to get to. It’s inconveniently located. He’ll pay you but make “budget” jokes and barter lightheartedly -if u stop it - he’ll say something light or apologize but he’ll do it again despite paying you your fee every time. It’s not being said to save money it’s being said to chip away at your value while reaffirming to him he’s right about your “value” bc you put up with it just to get paid - so in his mind you are now overpriced and he’s putting up with you and not vice versa. He’s the victim of a greedy bitch that deserves being pulled down a peg and he gets to feel good bc his money (your fee) is now viewed as help and not work. He’s now convinced himself he’s not a real John. (FYI guys like that are GIANT RED FLAGS and often stalkers, abusers, killers - that actually hate sexually empowered women)

It’s why he gets Akward in sexual interactions where the woman leads or defines sex or what sex would be like - the only time he ENJOYED sex and shocked Jasmine was when she was subservient to him and he narrated the exchange - GINO’s kink is impacting how a woman values herself hence the porn Sugar Baby Escort kink - he was weird in the strip club bc NATALIE felt empowered in a place where Gino would normally devalue women (while paying them and having them be grateful to him)