u/Professional_Car8143

You always have to think about who is somebody posting this for?

If you’re genuinely in a happy relationship, you naturally have the feeling to protect that and keep intimate things private and close to you.

If any of my friends posted a Situationship to their story especially when they have a lot of followers I would genuinely question why are you posting this?

Basic woman code. Don’t post a man before he posts you. Don’t post a man that hasn’t officially asked you to be his girlfriend or be in an exclusive relationship.

You’re home sick after one day of travelling? It’s not even 8 PM. She hasn’t even been there for 24 hours.

It makes me feel bad for her. She’s clearly seeking validation and wants her followers to buy into this narrative that some man chooses her.

31F no kids
33M divorced two kids 13&8

Met and started dating a man in late December 2024 we took an international trip in April 2024 had an amazing time. I was really falling for the guy. I started to see hiccoughs around his birthday in June. I had decorated my apartment for him and this was the first time his communication was off. He didn’t end up coming to my apartment until after midnight and his birthday had passed, saw all the decorations and said he felt bad but told me he preferred a really low-key birthday and didn’t feel good around this time shortly after he broke up with me over a text saying that he couldn’t give me what I wanted. It broke my heart and I cried for around three months.

Eventually, he ended up reaching back in Oct 2024 out and we picked things back up, made the relationship official and we actually took another trip through this past April again. I have never felt so happy and safe with a man.

The interesting part of the stories that I actually met this man through a good friend/coworker who had known him for 14 years, knew him through his previous relationship/marriage of seven years, knew him through two kids and the ultimate divorce. He knew he had some kind of issues with mental health, but no strong details.

Fast forward to day he broke up with me over a tech about a week ago, which I now realize and confirmed he is manic. Again, saying that he couldn’t give me what I needed and that he needed time to get to my level. I never complain to him. I never told him that I felt anything but love and I constantly told him how happy I was. He has since been involved with an assault and was hospitalized and is on a 14 day hold.

I was informed by the mutual friends/coworker, none of the friends could confirm it if his family had been informed so I ended up calling, and the nurse transferred me directly to my guy. He declined to speak with me at first and then called me back. He’s not making sense. He’s clearly still in the episode and we need time for the medicine.

I now have found out that he’s either been unmedicated. He claimed he hasn’t been on it for a year. His friends say he was on it regularly and slipped into the episodes when he comes off.

I think this is a really bad episode and I don’t think he’s gonna be able to pay his rent when he comes back. I’m not sure what’s gonna happen to the items in his condo right now. He also self-employed by because he hasn’t had his phone. I’m sure he’ll lose a lot of clients so he’ll be returning to a loss of work.

I have no desire to be with him immediately after he’s out of the psych ward. A part of why I fell in love with him was independent and the life that he led. We both live alone worked full-time, and have a beautiful life together.

I keep thinking about what if. What if he’s able to regulate and stay medicated and can stabilize his life again? Is there a future for us?

The other part is thinking. I haven’t met his kids yet. Do I just cut the losses and move on? As painful as it feels?

She has no friends

Do I leave while it’s early?

Experience at 100 Raglan Avenue?

Experience at 100 Rangal Avenue?