Romance or Sex
My partner got me wondering. So for a long time I have considered myself aromantic. I don't like the typical romance stuff that you see in media or read in stories, like candles, shared meals, cuddles, etc. I do my best to fulfill my partner's needs for that stuff, mostly don't mind doing it, but I don't like doing it.
So the questionable part and why this is NSFW. Some of the sexual activities I like, she thinks are romantic, like nipple sucking and oral (the entire sexual activity could be purely oral and sucking).
Is that considered romance? We're both autistic and it wasn't a fight, not even a heated debate. I just want to educate myself if past learning was wrong. We're poly and open, we don't have any "bedroom" activity that is strictly between us. Is this a situation where we are both technically correct and it isn't romantic to me but is for her?