Long distance and coparenting gf
Looking for some advice on a tough long-distance situation. I’ve been with my girlfriend on-and-off for a few years. I love her completely and want a future with her, but the dynamic is getting really hard to handle.
First, the distance is brutal—I only get to see her once or twice a month. Second, she’s a single mom, and her ex is heavily involved. He watches the kid while she works and attends all her family functions, which has been incredibly hard for me to adjust to and accept.
The original plan was for her to relocate to my state. Moving to her small town isn't a realistic option for me because it would mean walking away from my career and everything I've built. Now, she’s terrified that if she tells her ex about the move, he’ll legally block her from taking the child out of state.
I feel completely stuck. It requires a massive amount of trust on my end, but I feel like I'm getting very little reassurance or action. I'm constantly worried he won't let her leave and this will all be for nothing. What do I do?
Edit: she refuses to tell the baby daddy about me. I am open to moving there but it's alot for me to give up, not saying I won't but.
The baby daddy is 20 years older than her, doesn't work, or provide anything but babysitting. He's basically homeless.