He (M36) cheated on me with a F33 in Korea (and left me). is she scamming him?
My now ex boyfriend went to Korea (his dream country). We are both french and I always knew he fetishized a lot asians but I trusted him. He confessed two days after coming back to France. I can't help but think it's weird.
This woman has no job, no kids, no nothing, which surprises me for a country reputed for being strict.
They met on tinder which "is used by tourists in Korea to make friends when you travel alone" (I don't believe but i've gotta ask: should I believe him?).
They spent three days together and did it the third time. From what he told me, she made him discover good spots. They are apparently together (I asked him, he said yes). They spent three days together. Three days.
Since he came back, they kept contact on "kakaotalk". They apparently talk everyday. I don't think they will be able to talk a lot because of the time difference but to be honest, i'm frightened this relationship last. I don't understand. Everything about this seems fishy, is this a way to scam him? What does she want? Is she fetishizing him? What does she want from him?She loves Korea and don't plan to move in France, and he is too dumb to learn korean or find a job there. Is this normal behavior coming from this woman?
PS:I know his behavior isn't normal either but honeslty, I don't care. I just wonder why he take it seriously.
EDIT: thank you for all of your comments.
First, I thought it was obvious but i need to clear it out: i may have certain sterotypes because I never actually been interested in Korean culture, that is why I decided to post on this r: to see if it's normal to get that fast into a relationship, so yes i may have certain stereotypes and thank you for educating me on this country, no need to be mean tho, because i'm not trying to be. I would appreciate it if someone could inform me of what it's like dating in korea, expectations of men from women, is long distance relaitonships are common and does it work it ou in majority of the cases even when both don't plan on moving into another country, what is different in Korea from european culture, does a lot of women fetishize foreigners or even french people? I know I shouldn't care, but i am genuinely curious about it. Also, I don't think it's the girl's fault, I entirely blame him, but I was just trying to understand what happened, if I missed out anything. It is a desperate move but isn't it normal to try to rationalize things when the person you trusted the most betrayed you?
Second, thank you for telling me this relationship is not normal. I was being used and now I know it. I didn't know it before but now... I know how age gap relationships can hurt and why it's wrong, it's part of learning lessons. I understand it's not a scam, it's just two weird people getting together. It's normal to be angry and want the absolute worse for them right now, but time will pass. I'll be okay. Thanks for all the kind comments and advices. I wish you'd all know what kind of man he is. Well, he was with someone very much younger than him (me) so i'll give you the answer: immature. That's why I don't think this relationship will last. Some of you might say this is not my problem, I agree, but i think it's pretty normal too to be angry, and i will care less and less as time flows. I gave everything to him, if only you'd know how pityful I was, thank you again, because now is the time to stop.