u/Public_Revolution919

So I have a sister who has done her mphil and she has a good job we are also from a good family our financial status is also good . Now we got to know she likes a boy who is younger than her . He belongs from a very poor family . They also live in another city. He has done Bs in something but that is all and he works as a project developer. My sister only wants to marry him. My question is should I support this marriage proposal or not . My sister never got good proposals before so I am still considering but one thing is clear … there future financially is not at all stable and I am very concerned about it .

So I live abroad I have only those friends who are my husband’s friends wife’s . I donot have any other circle . Any way , my husband’s family have been very rude with me since and before the marriage . They have been not just rude but evil with me . As I don’t have any friend other than them , once I stayed at their house for a whole day . My husband and the girls husband were not at home . We were having conversations and one thing lead to the other . And I told her everything about my in laws . I did request her to not tell her husband anything but lately his husband wants to talk to my husband about something … and it’s killing me what if she told her husband . I did gave some idea to my husband that I told her a few things but he has no idea that I literally told her everything … what should I do and I feel so guilty and bad about it

So a few weeks ago I had a d&c fourth one then after one week shorting I had lumps under my underarms which were very painful . I was not able to lift my hands or do any house work . It’s been three years to my marriage and it’s been good . Better than what my life was when I was at my parents home but health issues never left me during these years I have had 1 stillbirth and 3 miscarriages. Because of my health issues and because of my husbands income which is limited . He got very frustrated. He was like why am all the time I’ll since marriage I am not well . He loves me but because the food was mostly not cooked and house was not cleaned because of my condition he got frustrated . And he fought with me said I don’t take care of myself and all. My family is not with me and we can’t afford maids and outside food too . Any way we are now in a better place but since then I am not able to look at him like the way I used to . Something is strange now . The vibes don’t match . Now I notice what ever he says even if it is just for fun . Is this normal ?

Since my marriage I have been sick I have hyperthyroidism autoimmune disease and diabetes . I have had 3 miscarriages and one stillbirth . I don’t know why this is happening but within these three years of marriage all this is happening . We are very tired of going to hospitals and being pregnant. Pregnancy news is not a good news for us now it is a tension . Now my husband is sort of fed up from the situation . Like when I get ill now he just scolds me and says when will you get better all the time we are going to hospitals . You are never healthy . Honestly speaking I am also fed up from hospitals now . He is supporting but when I am ill I can’t cook and clean for weeks I get ill because of pain and tiredness I can’t work . He gets very disturbed because we don’t have any maids and his pay is also limited . We can’t afford maids in the house we can’t also afford eating from outside every time I am sick . He can’t cook because his job is out of the city so he reaches home very late at night . What should I do I feel so stuck in this situation .

So this was my fourth pregnancy in 3 years one still birth and all the others missed miscarriages . No reason for why this is happening … but I am writing this with a very heavy heart … I feel abandoned a lot by my creator because every time I prayed and hoped so hard that this time will be different… it is never different it is always the same … maybe it will always remain the same … I will never be the same.
I don’t want to pray now for anything because I don’t trust him . Fourth time he took my baby away … no reason . Atleast the fourth time he should have given me a chance . A baby would make my life so much happier and better . I go to my friends house and I see them so happy with there kids . I am not jealous but I feel for myself. What I feel so bad about is this that my creator knew how much I needed a baby and my marriage needs a baby and still he didn’t give me one .
I don’t know if I am saying this because it just happened or not but what can I do . What else can I do I have done everything . I even thought of surrogacy but it’s haram and I don’t even have the money for this .
Feeling so lost