Husband is getting upset with me. AITAH
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Hello,
This is my first time doing this kind of thing, but I wanna know if AITAH or not.
So my husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for one, and lived together for 4 years. We have integrated the 50/50 rule with money, (he has gotten better with paying for more as he 'was' the breadwinner). But when it comes to the house hold chores I 'was' doing the majority of them, cooking, cleaning the like. I also have a pre teen from a previous relationship and he has been a good father figure.
My husband did lose his job about 5 months ago. It was due to both negligence and point out. I have a job that allows me to stay at home. But my job is usually not very busy. I mean to say is that I have about 2-5 hours of actual work. Its computer related so its not very intensive.
His family (mainly MIL) has always said that a house hold should always split the chores, so not one person feels like they are doing more. And if there is one partner now working they should be doing more. I also believe in the 60/40 rule. So I don't usually complain when I pick up the majority of the chores. But lately it feels like I have been doing around the same amount if not more. I wouldn't complain but I suggested that he maybe would start cooking breakfast to help me out a bit more, to make it fair. We also have an agreement that I do cook and he cleans the kitchen. Because I would usually cook at least breakfast & dinner.
I don't ever want him to feel like he's doing to much, I know losing his job is stressful, and he has had a few interviews but he hasn't liked what he was offered in terms with money and the job its self. So most days we stay home and he plays on his computer. All is fine with that. We are home bodies. I do not expect him to be running around the house like a chicken with his head cut off trying to keep the place clean. But he does seem to be getting up set with me when I ask him to help out a bit more not just with breakfast but other things and he looks at me when I have finished my job early (or not sometimes) and asked me why I don't do said chore. Same thing goes for outside work, if I don't start it or go out and help he has such a foul attitude. I would then tell him to take a break or wait till I clock out to help, but that seems to anger him more. So today I was done early with my job and I started to play on my computer. I ask him about breakfast and he looks over and says why I can't do it as I seem not to have anything else to do. I told him that it would be fair. So this whole morning he has been in a mood. AITAH? Should I quit expecting him to do breakfast?
Thank you for every one who has commented. To clear up a few things. My husband has Unemployment but it will not last much longer. He is activity looking for work. I told him we or at least he, is going to therapy because I feel unappreciated and walked on and I refuse to continue! That's what we signed up for is a partner ship when we got married. If we cannot get through this rough patch I'd hate to see anything worse pop up.
I will update if anything happens! <3