Toxic mother in law ,good husband
I’ve been married for 5 months, and I’m feeling really overwhelmed with my in-laws’ behavior.
At the time of my marriage, my father handled everything—engagement, wedding, all arrangements. My in-laws had agreed to host a reception, but they never did.
After marriage, whenever I stayed at my in-laws’ house (2–3 times), I was the one doing almost all the work—cooking breakfast, lunch, dinner, plus mopping and dusting. My mother-in-law would mostly just make rotis. If my husband tried to help me, she would taunt him saying things like “are you an officer, why are you doing this?”
In April, I got pregnant but unfortunately had a natural miscarriage. During that time, my husband had to go on a work trip, so I stayed at my in-laws’ house. Even though I was physically weak and bleeding, I was still expected to do all the household work. I didn’t feel supported at all.
Later, when I came back to the city where my husband and I live, I hired a maid because I genuinely wasn’t in a condition to manage everything. The maid only does dishes and mopping—I still cook all meals and handle the rest.
Recently, my mother-in-law came to stay with us and started criticizing everything in the house. I also overheard her telling my brother-in-law that I don’t do anything and that I only “use the washing machine,” while she is the one doing everything—which is not true.
They also argued with my husband, saying he didn’t ask for enough (like gold) during the wedding and questioning what he got from the marriage. She even told him that I am influencing him against them.
The only positive thing is that my husband is supportive and doesn’t blindly listen to them, which I’m grateful for.
For context, I am also a doctor by profession.
Still, I feel hurt, disrespected, and mentally exhausted—especially after going through a miscarriage and not receiving any emotional support from them.
Am I overreacting? How can I handle this situation in a mature way ..