u/PuzzleheadedTap8252

Hällochen Tine Wittlers,

mein Partner und ich sind vor zwei Wochen in unsere erste gemeinsame Wohnung gezogen. Wir haben die Wohnung unrenoviert übernommen, weshalb wir leider auch die (imo) hässlichen Tapeten übernommen haben.

Heute kam unser Läufer für den Flur mit der Post und jetzt drängt es mich doch, den Flur endlich neu zu gestalten. Nur leider fehlt es mir ein wenig an Inspiration und Ideen.

Der Stil sollte sich irgendwie an Teppich, Bild und Kleiderhaken orientieren (die hängen übrigens nur an Haken, die bereits in der Wand waren und können natürlich noch umplatziert werden). Ich hab absolut nichts gegen Farbe und Wände streichen. Ich mache mir nur etwas Sorgen, dass alles vielleicht zu dunkel werden könnte, wenn es sich am Teppich orientiert? Aber vielleicht ist das im Flur auch nicht so schlimm.

Kleiderhaken müssen auf jeden Fall mehr her, eventuell hole ich mir den gleichen nochmal und/oder platziere noch ein paar einzelne Vogelhaken.

Schreibt mir gerne mal eure Ideen und Vorschläge in die Kommentare :) ich bitte euch nur, von KI-generierten Bildern als Vorschläge abzusehen

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for one and a half year. It's going really well, we are about to move in together and I love him deeply. He is sometimes struggling with his self esteem, but that doesn't bother me. He is working on it and I am doing my best to support him in any way I can.

The only time where I feel like his low self esteem is bothering me is when it comes to sex. We are keeping it vanilla (which I don't mind) and he makes sure that I am finishing every time. But lately I am noticing that it's hard for me to even get in the mood. When he is initiating he's not really showing me how bad he wants it, he always seems super careful and a bit unsure. I think it's because he wants to make sure I want it too and he doesn't want to force himself on me. The other thing is that he is silent the whole time. He doesn't moan or even breathe loudly and it's to the point that I am having a hard time noticing when he is about to finish.

I always catch myself thinking how I wish he would be more bold and I want to really feel him enjoy it too. I know that he does, he tells me and he initiates often, but in the moment I don't really feel it. Now I am having a hard time even getting in the mood and I am often a little disappointed afterwards. I already asked him multiple times that I wish he would be more vocal because it turns me on, but then he gets really shy and says he doesn't know how to do it. Now I don't want to push it more and because everything else is lovely, I think I need to come to terms with how it is. How do I stop these thoughts in my head in those situations?

Tl;dr: My boyfriend is too shy to be more bold and vocal in bed and I get disappointed because of it. I asked him already and he can't bring himself to do it. I love him a lot and don't want to force it more. How do I come to terms with the way the sex currently is?

Flur renovieren/dekorieren

How do I (F25) come to terms with the sex life I have with my boyfriend (M22)?