Is this normal with MFM situations or have we just had bad luck?
My fiancée and I are both 24 and new to the lifestyle. We’ve done MFM twice now and honestly had a great time both times. The issue hasn’t been during — it’s been after.
For context, my fiancée is very outgoing and naturally friendly/social, and she’s also very attractive, so we understand that attention can come with the territory. But both situations ended up feeling way too personal way too quickly.
One example: one guy started texting her constantly asking to meet again multiple times. We may have been open to seeing him again, but then it got weird fast. We mentioned we were going out of town to watch our alma mater in the CFP, and he said he could buy a ticket and come with us. We told him no, that it was just something for us. The next week he invited my fiancée (not me) on a vacation to Florida. At that point we both felt it crossed a line, so we blocked him.
The second guy wasn’t quite as extreme, but he kept asking to hang out 2–3 times a week. He saw on social media that my fiancée and I were out at a club with friends and asked which one so he could come. I told him no, we were out with friends. After a couple weeks of that behavior, we blocked him too.
So, I guess my question is: is this common when you’re newer to the lifestyle and meeting single guys, or have we just had bad luck? We’re very into the experience itself, but the attachment/clinginess afterward has been a huge turnoff.