What do I do about my upstairs neighbors who are constanly waking me up and preventing me from sleeping?
I (40F) live on the bottom floor of a two story apartment, with an upstairs neighbor who does whatever the hell he wants, including subletting his extra room. Please try to be kind to me on this one, this is my first post (and I'm very sleep deprived) and I just really need advice on what to do with this situation.
Now, the original neighbor is likely illegally subletting, and I really don't care about that (except for how his actions affect me and others). Life is extremely expensive for all of us and I completely understand that. What I do care about is that these new "tenants" who stay up at all hours of the night making random slamming noises, stomping around, and even sometimes cleaning (which I realize sounds like a small thing, but I assure you it's quite loud). What's worse is most of the noises are often random, so once I fall asleep , they end up waking me in a panic because it's abrupt and alarming. I tap on the ceiling to let them know they are being loud, but they do not give a s***. I was so angry one morning because they kept me awake from midnight to three in the morning, so I reported it to the office through our app. I did this mostly bc of the time of day and to prevent myself from waking of their whole household in that moment.
This resulted in the original neighbor coming to my roommate , to tell them he was sorry. My roommate told them we would come talk to them about it in the future, though I personally hate confrontation so its admittedly not something I want to do. Of course since then, there has been a little less noise , but overall , it hasn't stopped.
Today they were slamming around more than usual and is about 2 in the morning. I was so angry that I ripped out of my room, charged through my front door and was getting ready to have some loud words with my upstairs neighbor, when one of the people who reside in that room happened to be walking up - thank God.
This Small thing prevented me from blowing up, because he wasn't in the room , and I could genuinely ask him to talk to the other person about making noise, which in turn would tell him the same thing. I was shaking at this point because I was so angry, I asked if I could talk to him, and if he could please speak to the guy in the room about the noise. I paused realizing I'm asking him to do this for me , without knowing his name, so I paused apologizing and asked for his name. We'll call him G. Nice to meet you, I'm the p***** off neighbor (aka, my name). I apologize for the way I was acting again, and probably looked a little nuts with my hair all over the place from attempting to sleep, and honestly trying not to cry (since my sleep schedule is now all over the place and I haven't been getting normal sleep over the past few weeks).
I continue speaking, as he polietly listens, and at some point we had were holding each other's hand (likely from when I asked his name). It was comforting, like he was unintentionally trying calm me down, rubbing his thumb on the back of my fingers and listening intently. Not releasing my hand until I was done and went back inside. I pleaded that I'm typically up late, so I don't care what you do up until midnight ( I said this in all honesty since I'm a night owl and used to work really late), but after that I need to sleep. And again , trying to hold back tears, I repeated "I just need to sleep". I continued, saying I would rather be friends, and to please talk to him. I apologized again for my erratic behavior, though I'm sure he could feel how bad I was shaking. He did genuinely seemed empathetic to my situation and saw a look on his face like he was sorry for me. So we thanked him and went back inside.
At that point I decided to walk around my complex at 2:30am bc I had so much tension in my chest from every bump and slam the dude made upstairs tonight, just to be able to get back to sleep. As it is, I slept in till noon today, as a consequence to all of this. Plus, I'm still walking around my complex right now, it's almost 3am, and the tension is still hanging on (though less intense).
So assuming my complex doesn't give a s*** (they don't) and they're gonna do the bare minimum to resolve this (they will), redditers, what should I do in the event this continues? I am at my wit's end not being able to sleep, and the stress is pushing me over the edge so much that every sound pissing me off. Please share your collective wisdom with this sleep deprived human because at this point I'm not making good decisions, and I need some logic inserted.... here.