AITD for Breaking up with my boyfriend over a comment.
Hi Guys,
I love listening to the podcast and I hope that people will help me with this situation. Thanks in advance!!
I'm in a bit of a predicament and I'm not sure how to go on from this. I won't be sharing names or ages since we're minors. I will also say that in some of the screenshots I know I wasn't very nice but I was super overwhelmed and didn't know how to express myself. I've already apologized for how I acted and thats resolved.
So this boy (Lets call him Blake) and I (Lets call me Blair) have been dating for six months. Its not a super long amount of time but I still feel like its not something to just throw away. For some backstory we both live in a small town and met when I moved here a couple years ago. (we go to the same school) At first I didn't really like him but over the years we got to be friends. He is a dork and sensitive but doesn't like to show it and I'm also a dork and I feel every emotion very strongly so I might just be overreacting about this whole thing. I know that you can break up over anything but I feel like this might be uncalled for. I started liking him late last year and he asked me to be his girlfriend in December. Everything has been great these past months except for the normal small disagreements. There was one time we almost broke up a couple months ago cause he was being kinda inappropriate but we moved on from that. There have been little things like him being kinda rude and him not wanting to talk to me unless he didn't have anything better to do. I also recently found out I'm moving across the country at the end of the summer and naturally told him right away and he made it all about himself and how it was going to affect him. I'm not saying everything should be about me but he didn't even ask how I was doing with the news. I'm moving away from the only stable support system I've had and the only real friends I've ever had.
Okay so now we're at the point that I think I might be overreacting. I went on a vacation to Alaska a few weeks ago because my grandparents took my whole family and extended family. The internet connection in the middle of nowhere is naturally horrible and I was very busy the whole trip. About 2 days in Blake texts me and we start talking for a bit and I mention that I'm sorry for not responding very much and not being able to talk for longer, I've just been busy and been on SOS for a while and sorry that it might continue. I have still been able to talk to him multiple times a day its just not like super long conversations because I've been doing things. He said that it kinda hurts and it seems like I don't care etc. I try my best to get him to understand and it seems like we're all good and he gets it. The next morning he texts me and says deadass "just don't mess it up 3 days in a row". My flabbers are freaking ghasted so I just say "thats a strange thing to say" because like you don't say stuff like that to your girlfriend of all people or anyone really. He backs himself up and keeps mentioning that "I mean i'm not wrong right" and things like that. The conversation kinda tapers out and we kinda move on but I'm still not my normal bubbly self. So the other day he asks me if he did something wrong and I just let everything rip. He seems to think that its all untrue so we have this big convo that ends in the middle because he goes to bed. The next few days he is kinda treating everything like it's normal and like nothing ever happened. After those few days a big argument happened where I basically said that we should break up cause I'm moving and all of these things. I said some things that I'm not proud of but I can't take them back now so we apologize and move on. Anyway the next morning I wake up to a text from him breaking up with me which was crazy and I feel like I overreacted over a comment and caused it all to end cause I was sensitive. Despite how it may seem in this post he is really a kind person and I kind of miss having him as a presence in my life. He's not mean or anything. I'll add in screenshots of all the convos we had. So, am I the drama for how I reacted to a comment?