AITA for not leaving a concert
I 30F recently attended a concert with my husband and two friends. It was a large concert with a very competitive ticket buying process. The artist is very special to me and my husband and we were going to buy tickets for our anniversary gift to each other.
A friend (Amanda, 30F) from out of town asked if we could buy a ticket for her because she wanted to see the show and would fly in for it. Another mutual friend (Jill, 30F) who is not a fan of the musician wanted to go because we were both going. My husband and I said no problem, the more the merrier, and managed to get tickets for everyone.
Amanda had her first baby a year and a half ago, and this was going to be the first time she was away from her baby. She stayed at my house the night before the concert and did not seem to be coping well with being away from her child. Lots of tears, stayed on facetime with baby for hours, etc. Eventually we convinced her to get some sleep. We asked if she wanted to go home the next day and she said no.
The concert rolls around and Amanda was having what I could only describe as a panic attack from the time we got to the stadium onwards. She didn’t have reliable signal to talk with her husband about the baby and I think the crowds and heat were a lot. Jill, who was okay missing the show, basically stayed in the bathroom with Amanda the whole time trying to calm her down. My husband and I stayed in our seats except for two times I went to go check on them. Amanda decided to she wanted to leave halfway through and Jill offered to take her back to my house. My husband and I opted to stay for the rest of the concert.
I guess Amanda is upset that we stayed at the concert and it got back to our mutual mom friends. They are all being critical of me. I’m feel I might be the asshole because I told them that Amanda shouldn’t have put us in that situation if she knew she wasn’t going to be able to handle it, and my life doesn’t revolve around everyone else’s kids. I am wondering if I’m the asshole for both staying at the concert and for my response.
ETA: Just a few clarifications based on the initial comments. We weren’t really considering it a special anniversary thing anymore after our friends asked to join but that was totally fine, however we obviously still really wanted to be there. We did drive everyone but Amanda and Jill were able to call an uber to leave. And yes Jill is awesome for sure.