u/Radiant-Ball-6991

Had bubs in the middle of a career change and decided to put my career on pause. But now I’m wondering if I will ever be able to go back.

My brain feels like it is so full of baby (baby’s schedule, their feeding, their admin etc etc) that I’m struggling to find the capacity to think about anything else.

I want to work, have a career but I also want to stay home and spend these formative years raising and loving my baby but I can’t help but feel like I am stuck in limbo.

I feel like everyone around me is moving forward and my feet are just stuck to the ground. I find myself grieving the life I could have had. This baby was very much wanted but I just can’t shake the feeling. I feel at such a loss.

Hubby is so incredibly loving and caring but he is the type of person who likes slow growth and is very happy with where he is at in his career. Although his job is low paying, he finds it incredibly rewarding. He’s had to deal with abuse in the workplace and has finally landed a job he feels comfortable in.

I feel like I must compensate his low ambition with pushing myself in a high stress, high paying career but I’m also struggling with a lot of back and forth of what I want out of life.

Am I wrong in feeling like this - should I change my perspective? Has anyone else navigated this and found a balance?

Was looking at the IKEA au website to browse their cot options and couldn’t find the Sniglar, seems only the Gulliver is available. Does anyone know if it has been discontinued?

If it has, I could really use some cot recommendations!

Bubs was 3.7kg at her 6 weeks check-up and is weighing 4.1kg today at 11 weeks. I visited my GP today and she looked at my latch and suggested that although baby has a slight lip tie, her latch is perfect. She thinks baby is either lazy and doesn’t wanna put in the work to suck or is stuck in a cycle of not having enough energy to suck since she isn’t getting enough milk. She suggested switching over to exclusively pumping so I can see how much baby is drinking.

Bubs usually feeds for around 10 minutes on one breast and maybe a minute or two on the other.

I feel so incredibly defeated, I wanted to exclusively breastfeed and maybe pump every now and then. I have tried all the different positions, feeding after her naps and before her naps. Right now she feeds for 5 minutes and then fusses and cries and unlatches - so I give her a break then repeat for another 5.

I was hoping if anyone had any suggestions or experience with this?

Edit: Just to give some context, I wasn’t going to not pump (everything is in the works). I have made an appointment with an IBCLC and hopefully I can get some answers. Thank you to everyone who replied!!