AITA for not wanting my stepdad to walk me down the aisle?
I (23F) am engaged to my fiance (25M) who we'll call Noah for only a month now. I've always been excited for my wedding so I wanted to start planning right away. We are also getting married in October so I don't want to run out of time. Anyway, into the real part of this post. So my step dad, we'll call him Sean, has been with my mom since I was around 5-6. I have an @busive and drúg @ddict biological father (we'll call him Robert), but he is not in my life and has not been since I was 3. We live in Texas with him and we moved back to my mom's home town to be around family to help my mom with me and my older brother and sister. So the person I want to walk me now the aisle is my uncle Jack (fake name again ofc), I have since I was 12 years old. He has always been my best friend and he lived only 15 minutes away from me, my whole life. He also took me to school activities as my "father" multiple times. I have never really liked my step dad. He makes my mom seem miserable and his mood will determine hers. He hated my mom's family and still does. Uncle Jack is my mom's little brother and my stepdad has never liked him either. Sean is a really reckless driver and angry easy and will yell when he's mad. He was never @busive or anything. Him and my mom got married in 2022 and Sean has been married and engaged prior to this, my mom was only engaged to my bio dad. Anyway, I have always been nice to Sean for my mom's sake. Sean, knowing my siblings and I have really bad trauma and abandonment issues, have left without warning, left and went to live with his brother for around a month each time and my mom and I have gotten close to divorce. He also has a daughter from his first marriage who gets special treatment and is his angel baby of course. I have talked to Noah and he told me he'll support whatever decision I make. I have yet to mention this to Sean and my mom, but I told my sister (MOH) and my brother (Best man because Noah and him are best friends) and they think I can do whatever at my wedding. I don't think my mom will react poorly, I think she'll tell my step dad before I'm ready though, since he deserves to know. My mom is also in the wedding and might be doing a mom and dau dance with her too, along with a dance with my uncle Jack I'd go through it. Anyway, am I the Jerk for not wanting my stepdad to walk me down the aisle or dance with me at my wedding? Please let me know in the comments.