u/Rajaalghani

I (22 M) met Randy (23 M, fake name) a year ago from college because we took the same class. We found out that we have a lot in common and got along really well. A couple months after meeting Randy, he introduced me to his "boys" and we got along pretty well. The thing about Randy and his "boys", is that they're HUGE party people. I mean like going clubbing every week, getting very drunk, and coming home with different girls after the party. I was the odd one out in this because I don't really enjoy getting drunk but I do enjoy clubbing, so I was always the "caretaker" of the group, staying sober and making sure they don't do anything stupid and getting them home safe.

So last week, the whole group was hanging out at Randy's place. Randy had a bottle of whiskey and vodka, so as per usual, they started drinking and got VERY drunk. Everyone except for me. Things got pretty rowdy, blaring loud music, incoherent screaming, and weird conversations, but I stayed sober. The conversation then somehow shifted into inappropriate things. They were talking about their manhood (for some unknown reason) and was bragging about their size among other nasty things. One of them even pulled their pants down. I was getting uncomfortable, but I just laughed along and stayed silent. Randy eventually pointed out how quiet I was, and nagged me to join in on the conversation. One of them suddenly said "he's probably small. that's why he's so quiet", and they all started laughing. They then started making all kinds of nasty jokes about me and my manhood. I was getting even more uncomfortable, but I just endured it and laughed along because to be honest, I was feeling a little FOMO (which in hindsight, I would GLADLY miss out on this). Randy didn't add anything to the conversation but he didn't do anything to stop it as well and just laughed along. At around 5 AM, things eventually died down because they were all pretty much dead on the floor. I went back to my place and their "jokes" stuck with me. After a little nap, I started reflecting on this whole friend group. I decided that I'm going to stop going clubbing with them and that conversation making fun of me was very inappropriate and I shouldn't have just brushed it off to them being drunk.

Flash forward to today, Randy called and says that him and the boys are going to go clubbing again tonight, and they need their "guardian". I told him that I'm not going to go clubbing with them again because I was tired of it and the things they said about me was hurtful. Randy then got mad because he thinks that was just fun banter and they were drunk anyway so they never meant anything they said. He said me getting all offended like this is just me being insecure and that it proved all the things they joked about was true. I was still trying to salvage the friendship, so I apologized if I was just being insecure but I'm still not going clubbing with them ever again, but I was still willing to just hangout and chill. Randy said I was being a total loser and I sounded like a loser and just hung up. A few minutes later he kicked me out of the group chat. It was then I realized that I just lost my whole friend group and it made me think that maybe I am over reacting over some drunken conversation.

So reddit, am I over reacting?