u/Random-Guy-715

Almost three months ago to the day, we lost our youngest daughter ("A") after nearly three years of MANY medical problems. She had made some really strong strides that gave us a false sense of security. Then around January, some slips started coming. We lost her in May.

My biggest concern as a father, is how do I stay present with my other child ("C", daughter, 6)? If I'm not keeping myself busy with a task, my mind immediately drifts to my youngest.

"C" got shorted so much when her sister was here, just because of the amount of care her sister required. Now, not only is "C" missing her sister, her mother and I struggle to stay in the here and now. I'm worried that in effect, she's getting even less attention. At least when "A" was here, "C" was helping with her cares; our family centered around "A", but "C" was a big part of it. With "A" gone, it feels like the glue holding everything together is gone.

How do I stay grounded in the here and now with the child I still have, when all I want is to be with my child that is gone? My 6yr old wants to cuddle with me in bed, and all I can think about is how much I miss my 3yr old sleeping on my chest in the recliner. I'm rapidly running out of cuddle time with my oldest, and I can't seem to enjoy what's left because I'm missing what's already gone. I'm acutely aware of what is happening, but it feels like I'm powerless to change it.

Any advice from those who've already traveled this path?

Context: My toddler passed away recently.

Situation: I have half a dozen interior cameras and three exterior that have footage of my daughter. AI ports on all of my non-AI cameras. They do OKAY with facial recognition, but definitely not perfect.

I shut down recording and have about five months of footage, half of it from indoors.

Task: I need to go through footage from our kitchen, living room, her bedroom, and the front of my house, for video of her I want to save.

That’s a LOT of hours of video.

Would an AI Key help reduce the time to accomplish this task?

Here's my situation. Currently have a UDM SE at home, 1Gb internet, aggregation switch, Pro Max 24 and 48, NVR Pro, etc etc. I am not currently running protect on my UDM. As I add cameras to my system (I have a nice size home with two barns that all needs coverage), it may at some point make sense to move a few over to the UDM, or pick up another NVR. I do not use the integrated 8 port switch

I'm now getting ready to put in a much smaller scale deployment at my cottage. 8, 2k cameras and 3, 4k cameras. That seems to be right on the cusp of capability for a UDM SE. I could use the integrated switch here for three indoor cameras, and a couple RJ-45's in bedrooms. 2.5G flex on fiber for the outdoor cameras

Do I replace my UDM SE at home with a UCG since I don't run protect on it anyway, and use the UDM SE at the cottage; just being sure not to exceed it's camera capacity...

Or upgrade home to UDM PM, use it for some cameras and move the SE to the cottage?

Or leave the SE at home and get a regular old UDM Pro for the cottage?

Or put the UDM Pro at home and move the SE to the cottage?

Or keep the SE at home and get a pro-max for the cottage to give RAID capacity and some over-head capacity on cameras?

Too many options. But I also don't particularly want to over-spend.

I'd like to hear some thoughts on my situation.