u/Rare_Lifeguard1423

been dealing with this for many many years. Until now, i had been able to manage things at least tolerably with lots of life modifications. but a recent flare has got me in constant pain that is making it hard to do anything. i've never been able do stuff with my kids that most parents do - sports, or anything really. i am reluctant to do surgery, but I think I have no choice. my thinking is: if this is how i am at 40, what will my life look like at 50? 60? I won't be able to function without another person--already almost there. But there is always part of me that asks "is it really that bad"? I am worried about the recovery and outcome. But i am also worried about not doing anything