My son has ASPD and needs help
My son is 24 years old and told me he was diagnosed with ASPD a couple of years ago. The issue is he lost his job Nov 2025 and also lost his girlfriend. At that time he was using weed and drinking heavily. He decided to quit drinking and according to him was fired due to his temper. He has been unemployed since and his mental health is rapidly going downhill. He has been doing uber eats to have money to eat and gas, but I have been paying the rest of his bills including rent. He clearly has anxiety and depression. I have suggested seeing a doctor, even helping him to make an appointment if he needs it. He tells me no, that there is no help for him. I've expressed I know there isn't a cure, but medications can help. He barely cleans his house, won't take the trash out because "then his neighbors will see him take a bunch of trash out." Which makes no sense; just take a bag out a day. He seems a bit paraoid as well. He was offered a warehouse job which he turned down because he "can't stand around all day without feeling back pain and a sense of impending doom." Said when he was there for a few hours in line to apply, his heart rate was through the roof, and due to his ADHD its like mental gymnatics being stationary like a machine doing the same thing all day. He has worked there before and knows what it's like. He's losing weight and looks like he's striveling up. I've asked him to let me come clean his house, because I think having a dirty house takes a mental toll and he won't let me. I've offered so much help and the only help he takes is financial. I don't know how much longer I can do this, I'm just going more in debt. He could move in with me, but I fear that will really ruin our relationship. He will hate living here, and we won't like it. He has had his own place for 4 years and I can't imagine how hard it would be living under someone elses tight rules. My thoughts are that whatever he has been doing, clearly isn't working, and he just needs to get any job and he will start to feel better. He has been unemployed before, and he always seems happier when he has a job. In the very least he fakes being happy better. I understand that happines can be subjective.