u/Real_Welder_7672

I’m a shy guy in 30s (could be a bottom) who can’t get into sex without the emotional connect. But I find myself chasing shortcuts to satisfy the bodily needs.However, I’m average looking and always chicken out when I get closer to the moment(— like I’ve been to bathhouses and cruising spots but did literally nothing) .What is the internal phobia I’m dealing with? Neither do I courageously experiment nor do I move on. I’m just stuck in the cycles with no action of any sort.