My BF accused of rape during our relationship.
My bf about 4 months ago told me he was being accused of rape and has to turn himself into prison the next day. He has consistently denied the allegation. His story is that he visited a friend who just moved into town. He was friendly with this person, used to flirt, and confided in her for relationship advice. He and the girl had been drinking. She made advances toward him and started dancing on him to which he rejected. He said he had a girlfriend. He then got too intoxicated, threw up all in her bathroom creating a mess, then passed out on her bathroom floor. He accidentally took her keys because he was really drunk and returned them promptly the next day after she asked him too. They haven’t spoken since. All of a sudden he is hit with criminal charges. He was arrested solely off of the girls statement. No dna or other physical evidence was taken. No statement was given by my bf. The charges were subsequently dismissed by the prosecutor at the first bond hearing for insufficient evidence. The girl was apparently very hard to get in contact with and when the prosecutor finally did she said she no longer wanted to go through with the charges.
My bf has never been violent or aggressive with me at all. It took him 3 dates to even kiss me and more for us to initiate sexual conduct. He has always been gentle and never forceful in anyway. He claims him and the girl never kissed or had any sexual contact. He even took a polygraph exam for me to prove this and he passed all questions with no deception found. His story has stayed the same and has never changed.
Not only has this been extremely traumatic for him but also for me as the gf. We broke up due to this but only because I feel like society would want me to. I want to defend him because I know he didn’t do this but I don’t want to be framed as a rape apologist from others. I don’t even know how to approach my friends and tell them I’m getting back together with him. We have spoken about the alcohol and the fact that he broke a boundary by going to a girls house alone. He understands this was wrong and took full accountability. He has been extremely open with me about the whole situation and never hesitates to explain anything or retrieve anything from his attorney. It has taken a huge toll on my mental health. I can say our relationship is stronger than ever and I feel my happiest and safest with him. What should I do? If anyone is going or went through this how did you survive?