u/Realitygormond

Yes, relationships, especially romantic ones, are often portrayed to be more about the reciprocation of feelings, the companionship and sharing of life experiences, and the spontaneity of those experiences but I feel that if you're getting into dating or a relationship with someone without asking yourself where you want it to go or what either party offers to one another then it can lead to weeks to months to years of wasted time as you spend it with someone that might not be right for you, might be someone different than you thought they were, or were never going to give you the things you desired from the relationship.

Maybe that's overly cynical or transactionary but I personally wouldn't want to waste someone else's time in having a relationship with me when I can't see what I could offer them or where our relationship would lead us.

So I recall as a kid playing a BMX game where you rode a bike around an urban map and there's some story mission where you collect fuel or gas or something for a homeless guy and after you finish the mission there's a cutscene showing the guy using a blow torch to cook a hotdog and he drops the blow torch and causes a fire to start in the empty warehouse he's in.

Sorry if this sounds like the ranting of a mad man. I could have gotten some details wrong.