u/ReallyElegantMold

I am really struggling with my guilt and feelings toward placing my wife into memory care. The moving day is imminent and i don't know whether or not to tell her about it. I am not sure what she retains or doesn't, so don't know whether she can comprehend anything other than her emotional reaction to change. A large part of wanting to tell her is wanting to feel less guilty about what keeps coming to mind as abandoning her, even though I know that a place where there are people available to help her 24/7, provide better hygiene care, more social interaction, and better nutrition is better for her than any care I can continue to provide at home, but it isn't home and I won't be there beside her 24/7.